Life have different plans!
Life keeps throwing different plans at us! What we plan is something that never happens.
So me and my wife were initiating conversation to have baby! The idea was to have baby sometime by late next year. We were just getting ready! Making up our mind, planning our finances and professional careers!
So yesterday my wife got a pain in her abdomen, we went to doctor and she did home preganancy test. Doctor recommended for ultrasound as well.
Today got the UT done, and result is she is preganent! This is bit out of blue for us! We are happy but worried as well.
I am in my early stage of my startup journey! Yet to make it ramen profitable!
My wife was having complain of PCOS and we were under assumption that it will be difficult but nothing of that sort looks like!
Other hand, there are family complications (not sure how many remember about my marriage) that I am solving slowly/steadily!
Amidst all of this, This news of baby!
Not sure what should be my reaction to it!
What should be my next course of action?
We are having travel planned in this month end.
Lot of things on plate, npt sure how to handle! How will I handle all of this.
I should look for job, so that we become financially more ready? How to handle so many stuffs on so many front!
Have you heard about abortion?
This is the worst advise someone would give , u should see the countless people who have undergone an abortion snd never conceived again. So please dont advise unless u genuinely mean to help. @Flippedlife All will be fine . I can relate to u because i was exactly in the same situation with self doubt and worry coupled with anxiety but its all going to be ok. Remember there are no perfect parents and u will cross the bridge when it comes to it. All u can do now is be there for ur wife emotionally, she has a lot going on in her body with the harmonal changes etc. knowing u have her back emotionally is all she cares about. Money will come and go but these moments is why the human life is exciting. I wish u and ur wife the best.
Man, you should be really ashamed of this response.
I am a random guy from the internet but first of all congratulations. Might be scary , nervous but you guys are stepping to the next level in your life . So definitely a Good news.
Who knows that may be this timing and the way it happened is just perfect. Can understand the concerns around being financially stable, but all that I think you guys should focus on is .
- Your wife’s health
- Being okay with not knowing what’s ahead.
Tum dono hi sath ho, you guys have the confidence to tackle anything that may come and you guys can. Rahi baat start up thing ki so take time, may be it will pan out fine. Just don’t let too much of worries ruin things for you, stay in the moment and plan only of a little ahead for now.
Congratulations again, take that trip and hope you guys have a healthy kiddo soon✨.
Thanks bud!
One thing I would like to add, no matter how good you plan and prepare, you will always struggle with raising kids! It will be very hectic in the beginning, but as they grow up life becomes easier. So go with the flow, enjoy life as it comes! Congratulations!
Congratulations! It'll be alright. You cannot be 💯 at everything before starting. Some things just become okay if not perfect in the journey.
A question to you - I understand this might be slightly nsfw but genuinely wanted to know that how come you did not know about the pregnancy? Like you must have done the act without protection. Right? So why was it so surprising? I have seen so many couples claiming that they were not thinking of having a baby or this was a total surprise - I mean how can this be something out of the blue?
Raising kids is never easy. But it becomes easier when you accept the responsibilities. It will be overwhelming and difficult. It will teach you so many lessons.
I understood why my parents loved me for no reason.
Only advice is - be present. Kids grow up so fast in the initial years. Remember, the more present you are for your kids the better chance they will have to turn out as better/smarter adults.
Life is really strange, guy who's got everything is worried, who's got something is also worried, who's got nothing is ofcourse worried. How impressive it is that with all the happiness, fear and worry comes hand in hand. Anyway, I think you'll be able handle it all just fine. Congratulations and best wishes.
Congratulations brother, let universe play it’s own part you play yours take care of your wife. Things will get workout.Cheers to you🎊
Congratulations. Yes you should prioritize financial stability and mom's health and emotional wellbeing. Everything else will fall in place.
Speaking as someone almost in the same boat...around 3.2 yrs ago there will be doubts,worries but once your baby is born everything will take a backseat..and any family member who does not agree with your blossoming family honestly doesnt deserve any energy ...although some people do feel different once you have a kid..so hopefully things will get better... financially the first 2 yrs wont take too much of your income..if you and your wife are both working it will be ok..if not get you can find a stable job but keep ur dream alive .. I found out i was pregnant when I was due for a promotion and few months married... so I was literally feeling as if going through a storm.. but I pushed through..working 14 to 15 hrs while being pregnant and also finding love with my husband all the while loving my baby .. and guess what when she was born every block fell into place.. so love and support your wife..love the little soul and all else will be ok...Congratulations🎊
Thank you for sharing!
Blessing to you!
Celebrate! In today’s world where so many couples are struggling with infertility issues and spending hard earned money in treatments with no guaranteed results- you have been blessed with complete ease. Trust me on this- I am pregnant and my husband lost his job yesterday. While we are also in a difficult position financially, the joy of having a baby has made his time in layoff easier. He is preparing with better focus, he is taking care of me with far greater happiness and I somehow am not worried about finances (we have no family backing)
Having a baby is a blessing, don’t second guess this!
