Lack of relationships is causing me anxiety
I am working professional now passed out from college like a year ago. I have like 1 friend whom I chat with daily but other than that no one. Thing that scares me is that if I get hospitalized who will sleep alongside me at night in the hospital? Idk if many people would come and visit me in the hospital. My parents are old and my only friend is idts very reliable or would help me out in a hospital. Also I have like no female interaction so no love relationship as well. I don't want to get arrange married because of divorce and alimony issues. I had one other friend from college whom I spent 2 years of college with but now he is also distant. How to navigate trough this dilemma?
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To be honest, it's hard. I'm in a very similar situation. I'm older than you, so it's harder to make friends now. People in my age group are either getting married or already have a set group of friends. I feel the same anxiety almost everyday where I have no one to talk to about even normal things. I call a few friends whom I met in 2019 and COVID happened, and I have never met them afterwards. The connection is not that good now and I'm the one who always initiates the calls (beggars can't be choosers). I tried joining a board games group in Bangalore, even went to a board games night, but felt out of place. And, my default introverted nature too doesn't help. I'm quite unsure of how I can come out of this situation. I don't have any relationships, never hard one (one of my biggest mistakes, I should I have tried to get into one in college). I don't want to dishearten you, par main kya karoon, mujhse nakli positivity nahi nikalti. Par, you have the age and you should go out, join groups and try to the people you meet daily, like, colleagues and others as friends. Main bhi koshish karunga. Kuch toh acha hoga.
Kaafi insecure hain tumhari generation. Who thinks about alimony and divorce before talking to girls? Bas normally baat karke dekho, like you do to anyone else. Talk about work, weather, how it is to move to a new city away from family, your interests. Divorce alimony sab bhool jaoge. You have much more to gain from a relationship of any kind with a woman than these fears and insecurities you keep hiding behind.
Hmm fair.
Make more friends around you. Whichever city or place you go to, you need a circle of people you can rely on in emergencies. Can be friends, relatives or even acquaintances.
Yep, emergency me koi to chahiye hi, tbh I feel like I need to choose who will come for help, because even if I do a lot for others many times people will only come to help you if they want to.
