1/ One-Night Stand mode: You're in it for the thrill. You chase what’s exciting, then discard it when it gets boring. You hop from one to another, never committing, never growing roots. The paycheck feels good, the job title looks fancy, but there’s no real substance. No loyalty, no compounding, no deep work. 2/ The Girlfriend mode: You enjoy it, but there's always an eye on the exit. You flirt with opportunities that come your way, and you hesitate to commit. You want perks, promotions, and growth, but without the "am-taken" mode. You keep thinking, "Is this the best I can do?" 3/ The Wife mode: You commit long-term. You work on your skills, deepen your expertise, and invest in growth. You show up even when it’s hard, knowing that compounding effort leads to exponential returns. You build a reputation, a moat, and a personal brand that no downturn can shake. 4/ The Mother mode: You pour your soul into it, protect it, and watch it grow into something legendary. You don’t just extract from it - you give, you build, you elevate others.
Most people are stuck between One-Night Stand and Girlfriend. Few reach Wife. Sparingly few, tread the forgotten path to treat their career like a Mother.
The way you treat your career, it treats you back. PERIOD The sooner you get this message in your thick skull, the better you will do.
PS: for those thinking about Arranged Marriage mode, Side-Chick, Divorce mode etc.. shut up and take note. None of that matters.
Chalo kahin to one-night stand ho raha
lol ..
In the wife mode: What happens when the husband wants to divorce, and sometime maybe pay alimony or sometimes not. Just mentioned that he’s bored with you and want to move on. Rare cases, the husband runs away and doesn’t pay money for months.
In the mother mode: What happens when the husband dies. She becomes a widow altogether. Even in the mother mode, the husband may feel to divorce you.
Sure, these things can happen too. But the way I see it - a career doesn’t end when the paycheck stops. That’s just employment. And if you confuse employment with a career, you’ve already lost.
What I found intriguing:
Great work on the traditional gendered analogy, because God forbid if one would use ONS, Boyfriend, Husband and Father - The analogy loses its steam.
Very corporate Centric thinking. This is your Achilles heel from the get go. This just shifts all ownership, responsibility, accountability to the individual and none to the corporation. I might be motivated as he'll to make a "Mother" career, but if I am in a place like Byju's - I might only get motherf*****. So, it has to be a trifecta of motivation x means x opportunity.
Why means? Because not everyone can "afford" to dedicate themselves to their career. It's a "rich male people" option. "Careere itna leen ho jao jaise Radha hui thi Kisna ke liye"... Phir jab parivaar wale dande marenge to lean ho jaoge aur neel pad jayenge. Again look at it removing your gendered glasses - What % women can treat their careers like their "mother" without facing backlash from family, society, POSH/snide remarks from colleagues, their duties being a "real mother" themselves - Yeah, it's a real motherf*****...
Most people are in it just to uplift themselves from lower-middle/middle class to lead a sort-of comfortable life. They don't really care about building their "career". So, yeah - If you can pay them on time, with prior agreed upon appraisal and prior agreed upon bonus and not waste efforts on Rangoli/planting trees, everyone would be much better off.
again .. my perspective ... you are free to disagree to whatever level :) if you are still confusing job, company and career .. I guess i dont have anything else to add
Where is the prostitute mode? In for the money, hate how it feels when its inside our life. Always looking for better client, to be fcked by highest bidder for appropriate time. No cond*m extra, shut up and take it in for extra. Hoping for tip(bonus), competing with other prostitutes(competition), jealous of money made by top level Madams or sales.
Life on knees or bending over
Everyone’s got their reasons mate.. you can sure try doing it .. don’t confuse it for a career :)
Yaar aap HR walo kitna creative sochte ho bhai. Maza agaya😂
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Spent long years in one organization
Job is good , pay is not,
Friends, cousins are making much higher
Example - stayed 10 years in that organisation, job is super secure but people With same experience switched and cleared their home loan in 5 years, bought one land in home town .
Now both are 15 years of experience, one is still in emi circus ( with 100% safe job) Other is little worried but has made 2/3 properties. Earning 2x more.
May be layoff caN happen for the second ( one who is earning more) but it’s a big market and sooner or later he will get a job.
But just because of ‘maybe layoff’
Should one stick to low PAy????
Shouldn’t we target for a debt free life..?
Could yoy share Your thoughts ..
Are these applicable only for men?
I love the PS note😄
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