BubblyPancake
BubblyPancake

Keeping his loyalty

Hi all, please share practical and genuine tips on how to make my husband feel deeply devoted to me, despite the constant presence of attractive women all around and on social media? Lately, I've been feeling insecure when I see all the influencers and other girls on social media. Now, It’s not just that everything on social media is fake, or just makeup or heavily filtered—it's that I notice majority of women today are incredibly beautiful, with flawless skin, amazing hair, and striking features. How can I stand out and keep my partner deeply connected to me, despite all these external distractions?

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ZestyPotato
ZestyPotato

First of all I am too young to comment on this but will say what I feel please don't mind if I say something wrong. Beauty doesn't define loyalty. As we age , beauty degrades and if your husband still looks for beauty maybe he is not the right guy. Everything will fade away but connections will stay. Still if you feel bad about your body, maybe start going to gym and try to get your body in shape and have a good diet and you would feel the difference in your body. I would say don't ever feel bad about your body everything could be improved but it takes time and that is the hard part. Apart from beauty you still need to make bond with your husband. Maybe start by asking how his day went and vice versa. Do some sort of activity which requires both of you maybe cooking, watch movies together, travel. It would increase your bonding and you both should feel connected

BubblyPancake
BubblyPancake
PWC5mo

Thanks for all your tips

Keep his belly full and balls empty.

DizzyNarwhal
DizzyNarwhal

Better than real Musk 🤣

BubblyPotato
BubblyPotato

Isn't love supposed to be more than looks? 🥲🥲

BubblyPancake
BubblyPancake
PWC5mo

I know it’s wrong but I feel insecure with all the beautiful girls. Whenever I see them, I feel they shouldn’t come in front of my husband 😓😢

PeppyMochi
PeppyMochi

Why do you think your partner would be attracted to any other person instead of you, if he is in a happy space with you, that too in a marriage. Not sure why you are feeling insecure, but the genuine thing is talk this out with your partner of what you are thinking and tell him that it's not a good thing though, but you are insecure and just let you two sensibly walk through this situation.

BubblyPancake
BubblyPancake
PWC5mo

We have been discussing about my feelings on this matter for last year. He says talking to other girls is an issue but if they are beautiful and hot, looking at them is not bad because all boys do that. He tells me you should have married a gay

PerkyWalrus
PerkyWalrus

@CaringTruth6 You need a hug firstly. Honestly.

Secondly, you need to work on him and also on yourself.

  1. Learn his love languages (Google this)

  2. Learn to be a companion and good listener (don't assume you are already one, although you might be a good listener but there is a good scope that you are not listening to the way he wants to be listened )

  3. Love her mom, sis, dad the way you love yours. Do this from the middle of the heart, not to win him over. Because if he is wise he can figure the difference out.

  4. Although a woman may love to have fun spicy fight sometimes (even some men do😜) to keep relationship spicy. Still, make sure that the fights which you are enjoying, he is also enjoying equally. Try asking him about this on a dinner date. And tell him that this is your way of loving sometimes.

  5. Do you like to hear compliments on your beauty/looks/intelligence? Do you like to hear or read romantic stories/novels? Isn't that beautiful!!! Yes it is!! Similarly for a man getting regular physical intimacy is a way of getting compliments. Although men should not, but men associate appreciation with frequency of physical intimacy. So make sure you are doing it regularly and he is feeling pleasured in all the ways he desires. At the same time, make sure you are respecting your boundaries. Create a balance between both in case you don't like physical intimacy that much. The way romantic stories provide comfort to a girl, physical intimacy is to men.

In this process DON'T LOSE YOURSELF. We all need to keep on learning and improving ourselves. At the same timeit opposite, we need to make sure that we are loving our own selves.

A quick question to you - have you felt a similar level of insecurity for the love from your parents? Do you have siblings? Have they made you feel cherished or was it the other way?

BubblyPancake
BubblyPancake
PWC5mo

Thanks buddy. This is all I wanted to hear.

MagicalCupcake
MagicalCupcake

U r feeling insecure bcuz ur inner mind is telling u that ur husband might cheat on u. Stabilize ur mind n think y this thought is coming to u.

SquishyKoala
SquishyKoala
HCL5mo

Listen, I get it. It's hard not to compare yourself to others, especially on social media. But here's the thing: your husband doesn't want a filtered version of someone else. He wants the real you, with all your quirks and imperfections. So, instead of trying to measure up to someone else's standards, focus on being the best version of yourself. Take care of your physical and mental health, pursue your passions, and nurture your relationship with your husband. And when you're feeling insecure, just remember: your husband chose you for who you are, and he loves you more than anyone else. That's all that matters.

We all will have to remember this, "Outer beauty turns the head, but inner beauty turns the heart"

ZoomyMuffin
ZoomyMuffin

Burkha and pardah were not as patriarchal as we wud like to think?!

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