Just turned 26 and feel a lot of pressure, a lot of anxiety
Not sure why, but lately for the past few months I’ve been feeling like I’m running out of time to achieve everything I’ve always wanted. It feels like there’s this constant pressure building up.
For context, I started my career in a remote role with a below avg salary for 3 years. Recently, I finally got an opportunity that pays really well honestly, the kind of salary I’d always dreamt of. But the trade-off was relocating for the role.
Ever since I moved, I haven’t really felt like myself. There’s nothing I genuinely look forward to anymore. I barely have time for anything outside of work. I used to be a complete gym rat I’d never skip a day. But since joining here, it’s been 4–5 months without a single workout.
On top of that, I have a lot of family responsibilities and huge debt. Lately, I’ve also been getting a lot of pressure about marriage, which only adds to everything I’m already feeling. I’ve always dreamt of traveling extensively, but now that I finally have the money, I don’t have the time or the company. I’m very close to my family, and being away from them makes it even harder.
The toughest part is, I can’t even think of switching jobs because I don’t know if I’ll get something that pays this well, especially closer to home. It’s weird, I should be happy, but I just feel... stuck.
I don’t really know what to do or how to process this. Just felt like writing my heart out on a lonely Saturday.
It’s extremely lonely too. I live alone in a PG, have no social circle outside of work, and most days just pass by without meaning. The only thing I look forward to is going back home for a few days.
All in all, it just feels like pressure, weirdness, and loneliness rolled into one. A constant state of anxiety. I thought it was just homesickness at first, but now I know it’s more than that.
Hi 👋🏻,
thanks for sharing your thoughts,
- try to talk to family over call daily, may be twice a day over video call, just ask any silly questions just talk with them.
- search for psychotherapist nearby or online, take their sessions.
- start your gym again after few therapy sessions.
- don't take load for marriage it's a option not mandatory.
- increase your social circle by joining multiple classes.
if any of this would help you, it would be grateful ✨ You really have good job as few ppl dream to work there, don't forget it ... You were gym rat means u have good fitness too... don't lose it once health is gone it's never the same again.... Your anxiety is curable by psychotherapist, i know ppl around me who cured it.
Tysm for writing this.🫰
Been in a similar situation as that of yours.
I'd suggest you move out of PG into a flat where you can feel way better. Personally I am not of PGs.
Start cooking for yourself at least once a day, dinner probably will calm you out well. Worked very well for me. Simulateously you can connect with your family over call.
Start listening to some regional language podcasts to reduce the loneliness feeling.
Regardless of work pressure, you must resume with your workouts. Choose a gym that's operational 24x7 or till midnight. Getting back into the gym resolves all such anxiety.
Try using playo or turftown and connect with randos for badminton or pickleball.
Realise that you still need to grind to get to the top as I assume that you will not stay forever on the current thing.
Personally I'd suggest that seeing work as just work will resolve most of our work pressure instead of seeing it as something where we need to prove ourselves or something. Kind of done with all the politics and shit. Focus on upskilling yourself through the work you do and aim the bigger part which ll help you better
And the achieving part, define exactly what you want to achieve and the milestones and see where you stand and track the efforts
