Is Recruiter lying? I am having FOMO :(
I called company A's recruiter to renegotiate on my offer with the competing offer a week before my joining date. During the first call, he said it would look very bad on me to bring up this topic now and asked me to let him know about my decision. Later that day, I again sent an email saying I am genuinely interested in this opportunity and asked at least to give more joining bonus or match the base.
The recruiter again called me the next day and said it takes time for the approvals and said if I had approached him at least 2-3 weeks before, he could have done something. This situation is constantly making me regret my choices. But during my initial negotiations, they lowballed me and the package was a pay cut.
The reason being I am in my current company for only five months and it required relocation, and I couldn't relocate so I informed the same so I believe they took advantage of my situation. Although I am joining the second company, but the feeling of renegotiating earlier is haunting me now.
Also, after my initial salary negotiations I got the offer letter within 2 days. It's an Investment banking.
"Recruiters ka kaam hota hai negotiate karna. Don't regret, learn. Next time, be the lion in the jungle, not the deer."
@70hr_worker That's so true.
@SoreLeaf9 Exactly bro
First of all recruiter isn’t your friend. You are a business transaction.
They don’t care about you or your success.
Don’t have phone conversations. Everything should be on email. If he tries to call you, don’t answer. Just respond on text that you are busy or driving. And if they come up with excuses on email don’t respond for two three days at least. Let them panic
Honestly, yes it does take time to approve the budget. You should have negotiated with her earlier but I guess you got the competing offer pretty late. Negotiating is not a wrong thing infact you should almost always try to negotiate. But doing it just few days before joining, when accounts and finance team must be finalising your details, it looks bad.
@DrDre When I brought up this topic he said it would look very bad on me now and when I expressed my interest and how well I fit to the role he said it is too late which was already 3 days from my initial discussions. This made me think that the recruiter was lying. Although I have replied back saying I could wait for the approvals. Let's see.
Don't listen to the recruiter. Infact this is a major red flag which is a possible indication of how toxic the work culture is
Join the other company but tell the recruiter that you will join if they can match the offer. About the joining date that can always be re-scheduled. If they really need you they will revert. One of my friend had an HR revert after he joined another company. Matched the offer and waited for more days to let him submit resignation and get release from other place.
No point in joining a place about Which you feel they lowballed you especially when you have a better offer. You will continue to regret and think about it and won't be able to live peacefully. So better join other company and if HR comes back then you can take call.
This will be a win for you.
You know what, these corporates are all fucking liars, they just know how to play the blame game 😑
They manipulate people and gaslight them and make it look like they're the saint and everything is the other person's fault. "You should have said/ done before" is the most useless thing they say 😑😑😑 As if we're antaryami and we'd know everything from before
I've stopped taking these corporate feedbacks seriously. They always lie to suit their needs.
From my experience, I've realized that anything is possible if there's genuine intent and if they believe you're worth the effort. What they say is rarely the right reflection of what they mean.
You can't really renegotiate just before joining. There are processes for these things. And even if you join, you'll be labelled as a guy who delayed joining and stuff.
Take the other offer if it's better
Bro almost all recruiters lie only to negotiate and lure the candidate in as much low salary as possible 😢
Don't join for a lower package. Now you might join and if in case during the appraisal cycle if there's a minimal hike then you would regret thinking it might have been better if I would have joined another company.
Personal Experience...
Salary change request within org indeed takes time. However aks him to add retension bonus or relocation package etc. I feel that should be doable for recruiter if he is being helpful. Don't be so regretful as I too have been through this as it felt bad. On long term this will not matter. So relax and smile :)
