Is it okay to hide actual salary from Wife?
Background- if I tell the actual salary tell Expectations will be higher that I should buy a house and jewelry every year
If she can't agree with your financial habits and goals, she can't be your wife. If you lie to her, you don't deserve to be her husband
++ . imo in arrange marriage setup, maybe to test the waters you could tell less salary just to know how other person reacts and it is gender irrespective. Based on your observation you could decide whether to move forward or not. And afterwards you could clear things out
Bro, he is already married to her & she is already married to him, what he should do next.
The fact that you want to hide this from her, suggests u don't trust ur wife or she's too demanding...think about why it is happening and try to fix the issues.
You can't fix everything, especially in marriage. Better workaround like the OP and live peacefully. You happy, you partner happy, everybody happy.
Doing it for decades; no one knows the salary in family & never will.
How financially literate is your wife? If she can manage finances well, let her take full ownership. If she can't, set aside a portion for your future goals, don't let her know your actual salary.
Lmao. Let her take full ownership.
Why do you think expectations will be higher, if you think she would pressure you to buy a house. How about discussing with your wife why you couldn't buy right now. Why to escape from it, common man you are married. What you should do is save/ invest whatever you can. Being clear will help you more, then keeping it hidden, if she doesn't give a thought of what you think, maybe you should give a thought about her being your wife. And if she has enough reasons, you should do the same by listening to her
If you are sole bread winner then IMHO not required to divulge. Set financial targets for yourself but no need to share. If there are any expectations, respond with a general idea in x years,etc. If both are earning, it's irrelevant when there are common goals to achieve, and individual contribution is agreed.
Agree
Also I would like to add that, if you are the sole earner and wife is housewife, then it's your responsibility to fulfill her requirements. If she was earning then she would have bought jwellery on her own. But she is busy in taking care of your house, kids and maybe even your parents.
This is why it's important in today's generation to be clear and honest about expectations. If you can't be a provider, you should never marry a stay at home wife. Can't get benefits from every end.
Personally I would never like a man who I call my husband to lie to me. Marriage is a big deal, it's not a relationship that one can break off anytime without consequences.
And if I find out that our marriage is based on our lies and that the man I am staying with (in his house) is lying to me, it will be a deal breaker for me. I won't trust him ever again.
Same goes for women as well. You wouldn't like lies as well I assume. Don't get married if you are worried and haven't found someone you trust.
Also, people usually check payslips of men and women before marriage
Avoid marriage bro if you really wanna be happy in upcoming years..
