Is it normal to feel like getting married at 25?
I’m 25 and lately I’ve been feeling like I want to get married. It’s not because of family pressure — it’s just something my mind keeps going back to. I see people around me in relationships, breakups, etc., but for some reason marriage has been on my mind.
At the same time, I feel a bit hesitant to share this with my parents because I worry they might think “itni jaldi kyun?” (too early). When I asked a few of my friends, most of them said they don’t feel like getting married anytime soon.
So now I’m wondering — is it normal to feel like this at 25? Or is it just a phase? Has anyone else felt the same way?
PS: I just gave my raw thoughts to ChatGPT and asked to write the above post. I don't bother gpt knowing that I feel so :)
Ofc, It’s normal to feel that way. Congrats. Many people hit that feeling a bit too late to act these days
Have sex and your urge for marriage will fade away...unless you are caring person and like to take care of others....
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Its very bad to hear this & I totally disagree with you irrespective of I'm a caring person or not.
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There is no notion of sex before marriage as per my protocols.
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How can you even base the entire relationship sense on just sex? It's so so so absurd atleast to me.
Because it is... Fuck your before marriage thing... Its very natural urge...
Get married and face the situation....
Bro, I feel you should go for it. Just make sure that the girl you choose should also have the same clarity... Nowadays basic background checks are required...
I have those questions also with me didi, you told me a few weeks back :) Yes still doing some validation to assess myself by putting myself in other people's shoe (family matters handling)
Hey @Cherryblossom @JudiciousCarol please share the tips with me as well
Go for it!
If everyone is delaying it for lack of clarity then why do you have to punish yourself too if you have this clarity
Yeah but I also have to test myself emotionally as well.. because I have some my relatives.. they are so good at handling matters..they know when to stay quiet, when to let her speak and when to discuss things with her separately (family things) ... So I'm trying to gauge that I'm actually that good enough to handle such situations or not.. That's why still just reading some case studies or just observe people that how I would have had handled this situation?..
I know above all may seem like poc vs production feeling..that as poc it may seem fine but as soon as prod issues hit.. you endup scratching head... But still trying to just understand more... and once feel sort of convinced with that.. then I only I'm thinking to tell my parents...
feeling to get married + a self-belief that I'm ready to handle family things as well... (I mean just wife and husband thing seems still easy but as we include family.. validation trigger kicks in)
Bro if you get married, have children, make money, take care of your wife and children - you have freaking broken the matrix already, while we slaves wait until or sperms and eggs dry out ! 🥲. We keep on slaving to save the right amount of money to raise a family, while simulatenously losing the ability to have a familiy (procreate). Ideal age for a man to get married is under 25 and women beyond 25 is just expired .( health and psychological reasons )
You are correct but don't be so hopeless...if you ensure a good diet, regular excercise and a bit of meditation then it won't be a major issue from reproductive health pov imo.
Got married at 25 to the person i love. Best decision of my life.
Good to hear that.. wishing you the vibes 🎉... I wish I also could but again at the same time it haunts me as well when I see the bad things going in this marriage space. Umm I don't know I should tell this or not but still... I have this thing that I can't see good people suffer now it can either be my parents, future wife and her parents that too because of me.. but when I see naa.. that people do a lot for their partner just to know that she still wants freedom and xyz things... It hurts me a lot.. I'm not saying everybody is same but I'm just telling from a guy perspective.. I mean all I can do is just keep future wife happy and expect that she atleast don't disrespect me and my parents given the fact we are morally and ethically correct at our part..
PS: If you have read this comment..pls pls pls don't misinterpret this. I know girls has to face some different challenges when they get khadoos sasural but I've just kept one side of the plate above that why the thought of marriage sometimes gives haunting vibes as well.. but overall I strongly believe that it will be good only :)
Take it from a guy who married late. That is an ideal age to tie the knot if you and your to-be spouse are financially independent or have family support (home/business). When you start living with a person early, your personalities form together, complement each other well and allows you enough time to plan for kids and other milestones. On the flipside, if it doesn't work out, then too you have your entire life ahead to hit reset and play a second innings, wiser and more experienced.
Agree 💯
Bro you are the first one who is worrying about parents thinking you are getting married early. Because AFAIK parents want their children to get marry as soon as they start earning 🤣 Also do you love someone to whom you want to get married or arrange setup?
Assuming you are a male
It's okay to feel that way... and feeling it early will make you a step ahead in so many things. You're at a point where you'll give evrything for a relationship to work. It's better to get married if you feel ready and put your effort for the permanent relationship than to some random girl who'll leave you in months. You'll be happy and settled with someone at this vulnerable age and later you'll thank yourslef seeing other guys looking for intimacy outside. Intimacy will come with love in It's purest form. And people also suffer and take time to establish understanding, later plan for future like babies and career. If you go ahead now, you'll have ample time to build a good understanding and plan future in time before age issues comes to other people, who are forced to go for other options like IVF and surrogacy. Don't think too much. Be open for anything, if you feel ready...go ahead.
Experience speaks, but I still say marriage is a scam
It's bluff... some people get into a scam, some find better things. In my opinion, it's ok to take the step if you're ready...but before that...make sure you choose the right partner and matches vibes and understanding.
Mujhse shaadi karoge???
I have a lot to discuss before even asking this question to a girl from my side if I'm the one who is handling matters ... (If parents will handle that will be a different story)... So, very respectfully I have no answer to your question yet. I'm sorry because I have no answer and thanks bcz you asked 🫣
