Is it just me who feels unlucky?
Okay, I’m a 35M with a kid, and my partner is 32. I genuinely want to ask other married men something honestly — how many of you feel that physical intimacy after marriage starts feeling less like love and granted and more like luck?
There are 5 days of PMS. Then another 5 days where mood swings, stress, and emotional exhaustion kick in before the cycle starts. On the remaining days, there’s always something — headaches, tiredness, kid will wake up shit excuses .
And somewhere in between all this, intimacy slowly turns into something that feels “optional” instead of natural.
Is it really so difficult for ladies / wives to create and maintain an intimacy routine after marriage?
Sometimes it honestly feels depressing — like why does something so important require so much struggle even after committing your whole life to each other?
Do other married men feel this too, or is it just me? Am I the only one unlucky here ?
Sit and Talk to her about your needs and ask her how she feels about her body and needs. Sometimes exhaustion decreases libido in females so get her checked and take care of her health I guess you both will have a happy married life ahead
👍 agreed
Did you discuss this with your wife? Maybe she feels tired or exhausted all time. If this is the case try to get some help. Get hormones test, vitamin d and iron test. It could also be feeling less confident about her body post kid or physical activity
Bro this is concerning
Tbh in life All you need is Roti, Kapda, Makaan and Daba ke Sax Sux
every individual is different so it will vary from one to another. In my case my wife allows all not menstrual days. Have a open conversation with your partner try to help her in all possible scenarios. Helping wife in making food washing dishes washing dress and all other households will make them happy and they will support and love you more
@ScarySalon - Here's my suggestion, first you and your wife should take up an activity to do together atleast for an hour, where you talk and see each other's progress..
My suggestion - You and your wife should join Gym and daily do 45 mins to 1 hour work out, while u r doing she will support, while she does the set, you support, by support I mean it can be physical support, or motivation, like you can do it babe. Gradually your coordinates will improve.
Most importantly, when u see each other's progress and after being tired at gym, jump to bed, u both wanna hump each other. Yeah, nothing bad, it happens, just assume u did gym for 4 days straight, don't u feel like mastrubating?
Similar thing for women, and most importantly, since u both do the gym together she is already comfortable and in synergy with your libido energy.
Nothing to be shy about, just try for 2 days, continur for 1 week. If u don't like, leave it, and so some affair. But trust me it works in 95% of cases I know in my friend circle.
All the best buddy @ScarySalon
What if she sees her husband getting manhandled by another guy in gym and gets even more turned off?
It's not about the activity mate, it's about the person.
I am not married yet. But here is my opinion on it.
You mentioned why don't women "maintain an intimacy routine".
Routine can feel like chore, something you have to do even if you don't want to. So first of all you need to respect the bond you have with each other.
Second, did your partner recently gave birth? That can be a factor too.
Third, she maybe feeling overwhelmed and overburdened, do you help with childcare and around the house properly??
Maybe you aren't doing something right. Just talk about it, you will figure it out why she is not feeling like it.
And I would like to add, people who marry solely for physical intimacy don't stay happy/loyal for long. Marriage is not just about it... You are older than me , you know how much responsibilities married women have.
It's not about lucky/unlucky. You made a conscious decision about having kids right??
Start helping out more in the house. Many women deal with a lot of invisible mental load managing the house hold. Make her feel peaceful and relaxed.
Having a kid changes priorities a lot, learn to help her amd talk to her how she feels. You dont know women carry so much that they forget themselves after having a kid
Have drinks. Will help in sex.
