Is it ever too late to build real friendships?
I’ve done well academically and professionally, but one area I neglected—without fully realizing it—was building social connections.
As I’m nearing 40, the loneliness shows up more often. I don’t really have close friends or a group to hang out with.
My wife, on the other hand, has built wonderful friendships and seems genuinely happier because of them. I’m happy for her, but it also makes me reflect on my own life choices and what I may have missed.
Putting this out here to ask—has anyone tried building meaningful friendships later in life? What worked for you?
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I'm 27 and i think even 27 is too late. And it is. Having friends and social connections is outdated I guess. Doing something just cause everyone is doing it is outdated. Doing something under pressure is outdated. Live alone dude, fk ur wife. Let her do whatever she wants. You do you. So what do u want to do? Apart from making friends under pressure
Fk ur wife is actually good advise to deal with loneliness.
Arre yaar mota bhai pareshan nhi hote, mere dost bnjao if you want. And yes apne wife ko friend banao na yaar , talk to her, spend time and cherish moments, take her to trips!. One's wife is her true friend bro.
Its never late to make friends. But it's difficult to find people who are worth becoming your friends.
You have a close friend already you're wife talk to her
My dad was 60 when he started finding like minded people around him. He eventually made a few friends. But for almost 35yrs, he had no friends. He just ran his business. Had some work friends, like we all have in our corporate offices, which don't last long. That's it.
But friendship isn't supposed to last long afaik. It's just a companionship and lasts for a small moment for you to cherish in life, that you had such good friends.
I'm living in the same neighborhood for 30yrs now. Some of my childhood friends are still here. But we rarely get to meet in our busy lives. All are married and we barely get to hangout even on weekends as well. But we all are always there for each other, in case of any urgency. But that's pretty much it.
Your wife probably had a lot of free time in her life, and she found other women who also had a lot of free time (free time as in the busy adult life never affected them). And they all just ended up spending more time with each other as friends, and hence, they have a good friendship. Nothing surprising about that.
lol my grandma met her best friend close to death
its never too late
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Well for me its opposite - for mental peace I choose to limit my larg circle to only few.. rest as it goes… drains too much energy.. I like my peace and I am either studying for certifications or doing some hobby which I like.. tried hands on with gardening, aquascaping etc
Yep. Pretty much over. You'll mostly have acquaintances at this point.