Is it all hopeless for a girl to find decent marriage proposals at 31?
We are not money minded, but life throws curveballs quite early in your life, which tells you that money is probably not everything, but without a great financial backing, growth in life is just difficult. So you focus on studies, careers, office dynamics and figure things out. In the process, discover parts of yourself you didn't know existed - daring, survival insticts, recognising the snake in people, understanding life and people are not linear. That efforts are not always linearly rewarded. That life is, maybe sometimes, unfair. You also have a health to take care, figuring out your stay. Figuring out competition. And before you know it - you have been fighting and winning too many battles. Forgetting that the most important battle is still left. A good life partner makes all the difference... But now that I go about finding a partner who complements me, good ones gone, the ones left are insecure of our money and designation. In laws want you to cook and take care of husband.
Do you sometimes just feel... Like.. where does it stop.. if it ever?
And I am not talking about babies too.
And the minute you pay attention to personal life, professional life starts falling apart and one mistake, and you are passed over for promotion.
What race is this? And why so unfair?
The tables turn after 30 it's harder for girls to get good husbands not the other way around. Get some actual hobbies and work on your looks+ physique you will get prospects from there
Yes.
Time to adopt a cat.
Yup @Elon_Musk atleast they will be loyal.
It makes me laugh how no matter what indians expect daughter in law to cook and the same is not expected from their son. Both need to take care of each other.
Majority population is of same mentality. You need to stick to your values and keep searching.
At the end it's your life, your happiness that matters.
Thanks @WorseSpelling . Needed someone to tell me exactly this .
when it has to happen it happens, irrespective of medium. I met my wife on bumble at the age of 31, and at that time I was on matrimonial apps as well. It was a race between my right swipes on Bumble vs my parents’ swipes on matrimonial apps. I have friends in a wonderful marriage with kids, and they met on matrimonial app. You don’t know which swipe is gonna work. Just hang in there. and if it the right person, the conversations, meetings and everything seems effortless. You won’t feel stressed of balancing work and personal life. It will just flow.
Don’t worry about statistics, no one has met enough people to say that by 30s all good men/women are gone. And as some other folks have said, hobby clubs are a good place to connect with likeminded people. Salsa/Dance classes, trekking, painting, etc.
Believe me curve balls in life are never gonna end, so don’t look for an end there, look for a partner who can take those curveballs with you, hand in hand.
This is the most positive thing I have read so far..!! Thanks a lot @HansteZakhm ..!!
Sad world where women feel free working 9-5 under a manager but feels bound about cooking for the husband and in-laws. The system is flawed from the core and we are gonna face repercussions soon.
As weird as it may sound, women should be educated enough and well so they can survive if it's required when their husband can't support them in future.
But women to work when their husband does well is a shallow society we are being forced towards.
Try finding a nice person who makes enough money and then become a house wife. It's a good life there.
It's not hopeless but it is difficult. At least most of the men I know are not intimidated by a girl who earns a lot they would actually prefer it, who doesn't want to marry rich?
It's not that the good ones are gone. There are plenty of unmarried men around 30. But it is difficult to find a good partner, both from male and female perspective. You just have to keep looking and putting yourself out there.
Like is unfair to everyone. You just gotta accept that and play the cards you're dealt. But you'll find your person don't worry so much about it. When the time is right it'll happen.
Thanks @Chummli
