FloatingHamster
FloatingHamster
5mo
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Is I'm coward? Is I'm Dumb?

Hey , my question is I don't like to fight I avoid most of fights with everyone related to me or not.

If they say its my mistake Even it's not I try to avoid it by saying ok and move on until it didn't gonna harm me.

I know I can fight but I don't think I want to fight.

People can make joke on me about this but I don't think this matter to me.

I only hope or tend to fight when someone physically bully me or something, I handle insults very well as I'm sort of comic and sometimes end up being friends with my enemy lol.

Is I'm a coward I also forgive people either big or small mistakes , yeah I do hold grudges against something big but still I didn't try to fight just avoid them or stop talking.

Is this a bad thing how I can improve if it is bad?

Is it the clues of a coward or is something bad in this? I want to talk on this and appreciate your ans and help.

Thanks for reading.

5mo ago
PerkyPenguin
PerkyPenguin

I don’t think you’re a coward or dumb at all. In fact, choosing to avoid unnecessary fights and prioritizing peace often takes more strength and self-control than jumping into conflicts. Not wanting to fight doesn’t mean you’re weak it means you value harmony and understand that sometimes walking away or staying calm is the best way to handle situations. It’s also great that you can handle insults with humor and even turn enemies into friends. That shows emotional intelligence and resilience. Holding grudges on serious matters is natural; it means you have boundaries. The key is that you don’t escalate things or let negativity consume you. If you want to improve, you might just focus on confidently asserting yourself when needed, without feeling pressured to argue or fight. Setting clear boundaries and calmly standing up for yourself can help you feel more empowered. Remember, strength isn’t always loud sometimes it’s quiet and peaceful. You’re doing just fine, and your approach is a healthy way to navigate relationships.

Keep being you!

FloatingHamster
FloatingHamster
5mo

Thanks man I really need that before posting this I got in a fight where my friend stand is clearly wrong but I backfoot as I know he is not in his right mind, I can talk to him about this matter later when he cooldown. Some of my roommates saying you need to take a stand against all of this and escalate situation if necessary, I think I done the right thing. He doesn't said sorry to me but I don't want it also I know I'm right and done the right thing , thanks man and any other person who replied love you guys

PerkyPenguin
PerkyPenguin

I am glad it helped.

GigglyHamster
GigglyHamster
5mo

You are not a coward - the fights you avoid are unnecessary - office politics, petty insults, etc. You do retaliate when your physical safety is threatened. That’s not cowardice, that’s maturity.

FloatingHamster
FloatingHamster
5mo

Thanks man I need that

SleepyRaccoon
SleepyRaccoon

Bhai tere ko kya karna hai ki log kya sochte hai. Jo tujhe sahi lagega wo kar validation kyu chaiye tujhe logo se

SwirlyNoodle
SwirlyNoodle

Jaankar accha laga ki aajkal Arkham se log acche nikal rahe hai. Sahi pakda aapne bhai. Sab grapes ka chakkar hai.

SleepyRaccoon
SleepyRaccoon

Bhai bacha hai kya tu, bhagwan ne tujhe .ih diya hai to kuch bhi bolega kya tu

JazzyLlama
JazzyLlama

Don't be in a doubtful situation, get clarity first. Ultimately being peaceful is important and you are getting peace from your deeds. If that's ok in 100 percent situations follow your own way but if you are doubtful about your decisions get them clarified.

Example: You think you can fight, get into small arguments at first. Go check which gave you satisfaction. IGNORING or FIGHTING. (You should be peaceful by ignoring). Above mentioned gives you clarity.
Note: Ignoring works 95% of time, but sometimes you need to fight. Intelligent person will get to know when to fight also

JazzyJellybean
JazzyJellybean

Fuckem up bro spare no one

BouncyPretzel
BouncyPretzel

You are 💯 percent fine sir. Just be how you are. There is no need to fight until unless it’s really required.

Be peaceful and focus your energy on right things. Fight because you have to not because you can. Be strong but don’t need to prove it.

Remember, when Lion walks Dogs bark.

WigglyUnicorn
WigglyUnicorn

Not fighting is good, as fighting stops ur growth. But what u need to learn is to answer back... Hissing is allowed, but biting is not.

TwirlyDonut
TwirlyDonut
5mo

Last time somebody tried fighting/bully me , police found his body in jungles ... Somebody broke his neck with a toilet rod .. Just kidding 😂
You are a good guy nothing else

MagicalDumpling
MagicalDumpling

😂😂

MagicalNarwhal
MagicalNarwhal
5mo

Yes - grow a spine.

FloatingHamster
FloatingHamster
5mo

I respect your view man but try to understand the situation here coming and showing grow a spine is little awkward aren't you think when you don't say anything else to support your ans

FuzzyHamster
FuzzyHamster

@Bakugo : I get your dilemma, I think there is a thin line between being a coward and being a mature adult. I disagree avoiding conflict everywhere is maturity blah blah, do that long enough and you won't know when you became either too ignorant or a coward.
From that I will tell you my final advise - keeping quiet or saying okay isn't the only way to avoid conflict. A much better and difficult way is to speak softly but not necessarily what the other person may like to hear - it takes a lot of practice, patience and on the spot smartness to deal with such stuff and avoid escalating it

FuzzyHamster
FuzzyHamster

And yes exceptions being people having some emotional condition etc. I would take a backfoot there but yes very smartly and not always

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