Insecurity , loneliness
Disclaimer: long rant, and English could be bad
Hi guys. I am 25M. A skinny fat guy, with an ugly face. I was an extrovert until 1-2 years back. Loved spending time and talking to my friends. But once we started working in different locations, the bond broke. I don't know why. But nobody is comfortable in talking to me. Except me, everybody else in the group have some secrets among themselves, about their personal stuff. I know it's up to them to decide with whom they are comfortable in talking about personal problems. But I genuinely want to know. Am I such an unreliable person? I have never cheated anybody. Never been in a relationship. When they need some work. They remember me. But otherwise every time it's me who is putting in the efforts to maintain that bond.. I know I am ugly. But I am very honest and serious about relationship. Every time I approach a girl, get rejected bcs of my looks. Once my school crush rejected me in a very harsh way. She crushed my passport size photo in front of me(later she said sorry) .Since then , I have always been insecure about my looks, physique and now my salary. Is there anybody like me.. Do guys like me deserve love. Is it wrong to expect at least one person (apart from parents) who cares a lot for us forever . I just want to spend the rest of my life with that one right person. Keep her happy, while I am being happy too.
Talking product sense with Ridhi
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You have cracked the difficult part : Finding the problem. Now you gotta work on the solution. Spend some money on a trainer and see your body get transformed in months. And I assure you that once you look good, you will have more confidence in you.
Sure, tq
Dude, finding true love takes time. Let that go in parallel. But meanwhile you concentrate on the transformation part . I have seen many avg looking guys transform into very handsome guys by going to the gym and following more dietary controls. Trust me , many suggested the same. And it's worth it. You will see the confidence building slowly. And it's a gradual process. You will see it improving slowly. Don't go ruthless training. Be confident and start the gym right away. It's my personal experience too. Good luck for the transformation journey and I am sure you will feel the difference. Pls don't mention ugly. No one is ugly and u have a beautiful heart. Don't mind or worry about how others validate you. Start loving yourself first.
Thanks a lot. Yes I will start
Also, how can you be skinny and fat at the same time?
It's quite normal for Indians dude. You can google skinny fat physique. You will get an idea.. Btw thanks for your reply below.
Stop looking for validation from others. I know it is easier said than done. But, you will never be able to get out of this self pity party if you don't realise your self worth yourself. You don't need anybody to tell you that you're good. You know that, and you can work with that. Focus your priorities on health, doing good at your job, lifestyle and building your confidence. Friends will come like magnets to iron once you are confident and happy with yourself. you got this!
Har ladke ki yahi kahani hein....