In the matters of love, have you ever….
In the matters of love, have your ever put your self respect on the table too to keep it good. Did you win, did you loose?
I failed once badly and it took a lot of time to bounce back.. My friends and family helped me a lot.. it took 6 years until I met another person and I gave myself another chance and finally won..
Sounds good to hear that you ultimately won✨. Going through something similar, now that I am thinking retrospectively, I don’t understand whether I was selfless or whether I was putting my self respect on stake all this while. There just a thin line between them. I don’t regret doing that, but I am not sure how should I be here after.
Selfless vs pro self respect!
Love yourself first.. rest everything will start falling in place eventually..
I feel like self respect doesn't matter in love. If you are loving yourself more than what's the need of being in a relationship. Where you can't put efforts beyond yourself. My partner is an awesome person so I won in life
Yesss. That’s what matters. You have won in life already. Things when reciprocated, they do not even bother you ever, they are worth it 💙
Hey, you get situations like this all the time.
But before I give the answer, can you describe the situation for me for better understanding?
Ah…I mean, well this my experience of something that was like or close to love but not love actually… but I was all in it, always go the extra mile, always reaching out to check if she is okay, always reaching out to see if she ate today, never asking for anything at all in return…they were almost never reciprocated .
And I do not regret doing all of this because I wasn’t driven with the motivation of wanting them too bad, but with the intention of just being the person their “first person” on the mind always in whatever capacity. (Even if it’s just friendship and not more than that)
Recently things went hay wire and it ended like you hit a rock and die. Now that I look back, all that I did, it could be labeled either as selfless or could be labeled as someone who put his self respect on stake.
And I don’t know what to call it . It doesn’t matter what happened in the past because it’s done and dusted. But when I do this the next time for someone, I do not know how should I see it. Being selfless is difficult but I am someone who can be okay and genuinely mean when I say that I don’t expect anything back, but loosing self respect….that’s a big No No To me.
(I hope I made sense, may be I am just mumbling. Feel free to ignore incase it’s not clear enough)
It's hard to find the notion of real love these days. I'm not saying it's vanished though.
But if the definition is that you are the only side who keeps on putting efforts and the other party is not bothering much then it's not good na... I'm not saying that it's about just one day or a week...but if consistently that's the pattern then it's a red flag only.
And bro this world is cruel... I have personally seen those who know the 'art of ignorance' very well... they always were the takers... but who takes things to heart and attach themselves, they end up feeling sad..
Matlab kabhi kabhi toh sochke kafi zyada dukh lgta...ki log aisa krte hi kyu hai... tumhe agar agle se feelings hi nhi hain toh there is way to give closure... but when people just keep carrying na in the hope that may be I'm doing less or they need more to make them stay... so uska koi fayda nhi h...
Fun realisation based on past history: I just met a few girls since last 5 years..the thing is as soon as somebody will get a better deal they will leave.. (and those who stay they should be loved at all costs and blessed by God always - my really heartfelt blessings for them... mine were not such though)... So now I'm kind of fed up with this and have stopped all such and preserving things for future wife and family only.
Yes, only man understands another man... That's why ppl end up mutating into gays
Lost, twice. Learned to give only what I receive.
look at the crazy guys around the street.. That's the worse that can happen if u don't stop spending ur self respect in places u don't get it back :))
I did put my respect on the table.. but I didn't like it. She later realized it was her fault and really apologized. But never jeopardize your respect even for marriage.
