Hi all, I’m 23M (just graduated), and I’ve been in a healthy relationship for over 3 years. My partner (also 23) and I were in the same college, and we spent a lot of time together and became an integral part of each other’s lives. So much that both of us didn't have many friends in college. We are each other's friends, best friends, and partners.
Now the issue is, we’ve both started jobs in different metro cities. This physical distance has been incredibly difficult to cope with. After being so close for years, the sudden separation feels overwhelming. I constantly miss her, and it’s affecting my ability to focus on work or anything else. Same for her.
We both dream of living in the same city again and eventually getting married but realistically, that might not be possible for another 2–3 years due to our careers. Since any/both of us need to switch, to be in a common city. I know long-distance is manageable for many people, but I’m struggling to accept this situation and stay emotionally balanced.
How do I deal with the kind of separation? How do you come to terms with the fact that things will stay this way for a while?
I just want to skip the next 3-4 years, to the happy part of life... Ahhhhh!
This will actually test the strength.. I totally feel you.. In my case I broke up due to my own insecurity and that is my biggest regret of my life. I let external factors like loneliness, new ppl, TV series into increasing my anxiety & insecurity..
We tried to get back together multiple times after that but sadly it was not the same.. We are now somehow stuck single in our own ways..
I have never been the same after the breakup.. Personal/Career wise f**ked.. Never felt truly happy..
Trust me.. from this point onwards you have to be very careful.. I guess you should start initiating crystal clear communications..
This is exactly what I don't want to happen! We will stay in touch and will probably meet once a month but I hope the thing between us... The spark between us... That should not fade away with prolonged intervals of separation. Thinking about the future is making me very anxious...
Bhai spark chala jayega. Been there done that. Long distance didn’t work 10 yrs ago and it will never work in today’s fast world.
Do the only thing necessary if you really want this relationship to survive. Shift to her city and get a job there
This is not good even if you get married also, your careers are equally important... If it cannot work in this situations it will not work in future as well. Your love should be your strength not weakness, believe in your relationship, be hopeful, be confident... Focus on career as well.
Dude!! The next 3-4 years is what is going to write the rat for your married life or not, endure them and be patient and loyal,
I was there, and I broke up due to constant fights and time management issues, hang in there, you can rant out here for everything else,
Switch asap to same city. Don't wait for 3-4 yrs in any scenario, not gonna work else
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