I think it is the scenario nowadays

I m realising only 2 types of men are dating -

Those who get matches on apps and 2nd those who are docs because they are lots of girls in medical fields. Many men don't even get around so many girls or talk to them on daily basis cuz of bad ratios of girls in offices. On top of it if one is not into drinking or smoking then it adds to it. It gives me icks to the idea of being physical with someone when they are not in their senses ( drunk state kinda).

Also mostly men who overthink are actually the ones with deep emotions but they cannot express or approach due to having this over analysis mindset and the ones who are heartless are dating many girls at the same time. This is the situation nowadays. And I totally believe no one talks irl that much, it's an online lingo to say that meet people irl, it does not take place that much.