I’m 27 F, looking for advice

I'm 31 year old male. Never been in love or relationship. Have been in a situation where a friend showed an intent but I shyed away because of her complicated history and scary emotional behaviour. At home, its totally different. I do not hold assets and own a house. Being a child of single parent is still considered a taboo in this society. But I do not think that way. Matches does come to us but nothing is enticing. It's all about money,assets from parents side. Travel, adventure, all glamourous from the girl side. The arranged marriage stuff makes me more alienated from this society. I have not stopped my mother's search. But makes me demoralising. No one speaks about morality, good intent and integrity. Which I'm looking for.

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Many people are advising me to get married if I care about horoscopes, or to move in with him and see how things go. But honestly, I have never been someone who would take either of these paths. I don’t find it right for me personally. Even though I’m financially independent, I come from a conservative household. It would never be easy for me to move out and do things completely against my family’s wishes (this doesn’t mean that I have obeyed them all the time. I have fought really very hard and made them accept him before this horoscope thing but again I failed 😞) I tried whatever was in my hand now horoscope and my parents belief in this and what future would be all this is not in my control) My parents are very emotional and dramatic — they make every issue so big that it impacts their health, and both of them already have serious health problems. I don’t even know what to say anymore. Where there was supposed to be misalignment in thoughts because of the age gap, there is none. But where there should have been understanding from family as parents, sadly, there is none.

He didn’t want to marry earlier, and his parents never pressured him. They only casually asked him and shared a few profiles in his early 30s, but he didn’t give it much thought. He has a small circle of good, grounded friends who are happily married — I have personally spoken to many of them, especially the women, and they all have good regards for him. I have also met his parents — they are very different from mine. Both were working professionals and have always respected his decisions rather than interfering. For the past decade, he stayed with the same firm and, in a way, got stuck in his routine life — by choice. After we met, he felt a very rare connection. He even met my parents separately (sometimes without even informing me) to try and console them, asking them not to pressure me and to give me space, hoping it would help me think clearly. All of this has been fact-checked through his close circle — it’s not just words.

If you both feel comfortable with each other then don't worry about your parents, it's your life not theirs live it on your own terms, you don't owe them anything. It would sound very harsh but nobody is in this world because they asked for it, so if you can grab happiness and satisfaction in your life then just go ahead and forget what anyone else says including your parents. Well that's what I think, but I know not everyone can think the same way so do as you wish considering above as just my advice.

Finding a partner using the checklist methodology doesn't work anymore. We have seen so many examples around us. Try to convince your parents by giving such examples. Even if it takes time and you both are really into each other like no matter what, they will eventually agree because they would feel that you are better off with someone than remain unmarried. Its not a one day task and will take a year atleast(telling you from my own experience). In the meantime, focus on yourself, keep some distance from your parents while being respectful and helping at the same time. If it's meant to happen and if you have given it your all, you will not regret later. Everything happens for a reason

Well, this horoscope thing is absolutely nonsensical. If anything unfortunate is meant to happen in life, it WILL happen! Doesn't matter if you're together or not. Other than that, as a few people pointed out, use your brains along with your heart. Go ahead only if you're completely sure about this person and you were together for a long period because such a huge age gap also means a huge difference in maturity levels and career/life goals. Make sure you know the person REALLY well because people may portray fake personalities in current times! Don't take hurried decisions which you may regret later. Also, would you mind sharing his point of view as well? It would give a better idea about the situation.
All the best!

If you love this man and if he's having good intentions about life. Just get married without their consent.

What is duration of your relationship with 10 yrs elder guy. If it's like good 2-3 years and you don't find anything fishy, go ahead. If it has recently started, I would say rethink everything. Reason being 10 yrs is a big gap which is kind of half generation gap. You need to figure out of it's actually true love or an infatuation towards a matured figure.( there are multiple nuances of attraction towards elder people) Check why your guy did not marry yet, his past, and if he is actually serious (because if he is ready for marriage now, he should have been start looking in early 30s). You need to do proper due diligence. If everything checks, go ahead. Horoscope is a directional approach. It's not wrong but not something that should form basis od your future life.
Your focus first should be to make sure do you really want to go ahead with him. Parents se discussion would be struggle but that is secondary at this point.

I never believed in horoscopes, and neither did my parents — until recently, when some relatives faced problems that were said to be reflected in their kundli. Over the past few months, this whole horoscope issue and my parents’ reactions have honestly scared me. My fear is not about superstition — it’s about not wanting to risk my loved one’s happiness if, by any chance, there is some truth to it. I’d rather see us both growing individually and happily on our own paths, than live together and helplessly watch either or both of us suffer because of something predicted. This entire situation has messed with my mindset. One thing I know for sure: later in life, horoscopes will not hold value for me. For now, I haven’t made any decision. We still meet, share our days, talk about our wishes and plans. I’m just trying to process everything