I genuinely Need advice please don’t make fun here
I’m gonna get married in an year or two. I have loved none. So it’s gonna be arranged marriages for sure.
Now ,few months back my collegue ABC ( known him from 1 year we are hi bye and group frnds) met me along with our group (we talked , shared memes and laughed)!, the day is over ,the ABC guy started chatting with me , I thought it was normal since we used to sometime text regarding work and share memes So I thought it’s gonna be that
One random day he asked me to go out have lunch (said other people in the group is coming too) I told no but after so many times of him asking me, I went few days later he said he likes me, but still today I see him as my frnd I told him made him understand (at least I hope so) but still he wants to try it out with me I genuinely thought want our friendship and literal explained him for weeks, still he is not understanding me, finally I decided to not talk to him and yeah that’s all
Should I share this to my future partner Did I do any wrong , I mean I shared this with my frnd and she yelled at me like why did you even went out with him ? I have explanation cause I know him for months , it’s just lunch Idk do I need to behave like this with my male colleagues/frnds
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Genuine advice. Share this incident to future prospects, and see his reaction. If he objects or asks for explaination, filter him out. No one should be this controlling. There is a fine line between controlling and protecting. Being possessive is a sign of insecurity. Hope you get it.
Hey girl! U don’t need to share anything with anyone. You made it clear to him since day one. The one who yelled at you keep yourself away from him/her that person is the sweet poison. Good luck for ur marriage and have a happy life. You have done nothing wrong here and don’t need to justify this. Just like to mention I am a man and still I can’t able find anything wrong here or anything worth sharing with anyone.
Bata dena. Foundation of relationship should not be built on lies
Tum bas lunch pe gayi ho aur itna soch rhi ho, bahut sahi yaar.You seem to be a very simple girl. You will surely get a great husband!!
No need to worry....
Now a days its normal to go with your friends for lunch/dinner in your bachelor life ....
So just chill....you did nothing wrong...
Shaadi se phele hi itne gul khila rhi h aage jaake kya hi hoga... Your guy deserves better...
If you went for lunch with someone after you committed for marriage then you should have asked him before going, if you didn't do then know that it's wrong and don't discuss it with him now, what's there to gain? Unnecessary disturbances.
if it's before committing for marriage then forget it. It's just lunch.
- You told him you were not interested in having lunch with him
- Since he is your friend you gave in and decided to have the harmless lunch
- He expressed his interest in you, but you set the boundary early on, rejected his advances and stopped communication with him.
I would say you played it all out correctly and stood up for what you wanted. Except maybe don't let anyone make you do what you don't want (you didn't need to be nice and agree to his insistent lunch offer)
I feel this isn't that big of a deal that it should be communicated to a future partner that you had lunch with someone. You can if it makes you feel better and takes off the load. Would recommend not staying with a guy who judges you for such petty things.
How would you feel if your future partner does the same thing like you did ?