Context : 22M, Software Engineer, graduated from tier 2, 5 10.8, Not buffed up but fit, brown skin, some of my hobbies are painting and photography.I am average looking. I am a gem basically (general engineering male hehe).😆
Never in my life I got compliment from women, have been single all my life and always rejected. Currently working on myself and my confidence alongside my career.
Some time back, I was heavily down due to all the questions in my mind, like I look that bad and anything, even if I earn, have a good dressing sense I will still be rejected, so my friends made my shaadi.com profile and bought the subscription and we did all the verifications.
We entered my details, my original name, age we put as 27, college, work profile, and for salary we put was 25 LPA which is achievable from what I earn today, considering 5 years time.
We wrote my family details, my father's a retired gov officer, we don't have any land etc, some of the details were tweeked.
My friend clicked some of my best photos in modern outfits with a proper camera.
Zero responses, 2 months passed 💀
Although got a decent profile views, but no messages, we tried sending requests, only 2 were accepted in those 2 months and both ignored our messages. We basically tried everything to have a complete view on these things.
We deleted the profile.
lmao, we laughed very hard that day And badhiya party kari us din.
Haha, what an experience it was.
Although I am still skeptical about it, but I don't think I will ever find someone. I wish someone told me earlier, I could have lived differently.
I am at content that I can wrap up and leave early. Life was peaceful, haha.
Kisi ko dukh nhi diya bhai, na kisi ka time waste kiya.
We needed some answers, instead I got a reality check
Hmm — Kaam pe Dhyan doh ..
Han bhai
Wahi bacha hai ab, aur to kuch nhi
Iam. Interested
Kya keh rahe ho bhai?
You're only 22 haha, the world is your oyster. Time is on your side, don't worry. Partner will come at the right time, when you are ready. Until then keep working on yourself.
Bhai, apne post padhi na
Zero matches, I mean zero.
Ye bahut bada reality check hai and mujhe hope nhi rakhni chahiye
30 se pehle sare kaam khatam kar lunga mai, zyada lamba jene ka point nhi
when you write 27..you also must look 27. but kids like you nowadays have some weird ideas of experiments. which is quite sad in your example.
Dadhi badhi hai meri, lag rha tha mai 27, tabhi dala hun.
Nhi to kyu karta bhai.
Focus on making authentic connections, you will find partner at the right time. I have seen a lot that many pretty ladies end up with not so good looking guys or vica versa. Btw beauty is subjective but I just mentioned that for debate sake. Anyways, there are many things that make a guy attractive apart from his looks, work on your personality, nature, hit the gym, if you are kind and funny that gives you browny points. You are way too young to have such negative thoughts, puri life padi haii. Life is what you make it.
PS- This is coming from a girl who was bullied for the first 18 years of her life because of her looks plus I was complete jhalli(unkept). I am 5,9 F who was 82 kgs with frizzy hair, poor dressing sense, bad posture and everything. I lost 18kgs, worked on my dressing sense and the world around me changed. I am telling this background here because I know what rejections can make you feel and won’t say that looks don’t matter but they aren’t everything.
Wishing you all the best.
Thanks,
Wishing you the best too
My take -
Don't search, jo b ladki bhaw deri hai usko dekho...avg "gem" ki koi value nhi hai
Bhai, aaj tak ek compliment nhi mila, na h someone approached.
I don't know where I can implement your advice
You can try giving your age as 30+. It will help. You are just 22. Women usually like older guys. You can still approach multiple women for a date. Don’t worry men usually hit their prime once they reach 30. You will get a lot of women that time.
Anyway you will see most of the women’s boyfriends are miserable 😂
Bhai,
Kya h bolun ab
Zero matches ka matlab zero hota hai
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