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PerkyWalrus
PerkyWalrus
Deloitte

How to take grief out of him

Hi all, As you all know me I like to focus on positivity and good thoughts always, and tend to ignore anything otherwise. Today's post might not be on a very bright side. One thing which has caught my attention now multiple times is that my dad now frequently feels "mnnh theek ni aa ( mind is upset)". This happens for 3-4 days twice a month. Reason : My grandfather passed away this year in March. My bua (dad's sister) passed away just 3 months after that. She was younger than my dad.

My dad is in mid 50s and hence fully active although overweight and occupied in work. But still he feels this. He is open about it, not too much but yes he tells this when we ask multiple times after reading the face.

What can I do to help him in this situation? I talk to my dad, but we talk about managing household, and other 100 things but never about emotions. So, this conversation may be a difficult one for me. I know it's too early, but I feel like it's beginning of a loop of feeling sad constantly. I want to stop it as soon as possible. Help me with your valuable inputs.

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FuzzyHamster
FuzzyHamster
Accenture8mo

Morning workout or walks together can help uplift the mood and help you spend time together

ZippyMochi
ZippyMochi
Stealth8mo

This. Spending time is important. Give him time to grieve, it will take a while. A year or two minimum.

ZestyBurrito
ZestyBurrito
Stealth8mo

Grief needs its own time to be processed, and that amount of time is different for everyone. As your dad lost two important people from his life one after the other, it will take him some time to fully process his grief. If I am not wrong, there is said to be a 5 stage journey for grief.

Be there for your dad, and add some channels in his life through which he can process his grief in the right way. Go on morning walks with him, get him to do light exercises, spend 30 min in sunlight, invite his friends sometimes, etc, things that will release dopamine and serotonin (feel good brain chemicals). It's okay to not be 100% consistent with these, but try to get him to do this majority of the time. Don't force him, introduce these things slowly, start with morning walks. If he isn't ready to go for walks, take him out in a garden/park and sit there in the embrace of nature, even this is enough to help in healing. All will be well.

DerpyMochi
DerpyMochi
Infosys8mo

Emotions cannot be handled easily. It needs some opening to vent out. If it's suppressed too long it becomes diseases in our body. Hence to release those emotions physical exercises or meditation will help. Walking, dancing, weight lifting, breathing exercises etc will help release those suppressed negative emotions.

PeppyWalrus
PeppyWalrus
Stealth8mo

empathy and compassion, take him to temples or gardens. everything hurts but time heals

GigglyRaccoon
GigglyRaccoon
Stealth8mo

He needs to meet people outside of your family. He has to go out and meet friends of his age. His mind needs to be distracted from work and family. Also try to push your dad to pursue a hobby.

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