How to handle such in laws
I am hard working women having 3 year old toddler
I WFH 4 days a week in us shift on senior position Handle my toddler all alone including his school timmings, play time, his food etc
I do 1 hour exercise in the morning
My day starts at 7:30 and ends at 1:30
Get 6 hours or less sleep everyday
Husband is having night shift and works from office 3 days a week
I manage everything right from grocery shopping to each and everything at home
My in laws visit us for 5 days every 5 6 months
My mother in law doesn't miss a single opportunity to taunt me on any little thing in the house
How the gas burner should be clean how I am keeping things wrong etc
I don't expect any sort of help from anyone I enjoy my life my work my baby everything
But these 5 days when someone just visits your house and do not show a tony sort of appreciation froyour efforts but makes sure to put you down on any insignificant things this gets on my nerves...mostly I do not react but it's so irritating...any advise how to handle these in laws who are so delusional in their own world they can't comprehend the amount of hard work your are doing and still keep judging you and outiing you down
Man’s perspective from some one whose parents live with his family: as long as your husband appreciates your efforts, helps you and acknowledges when his mother/father is wrong, you should ignore them. I know it doesn’t feel correct and they should be put in their place etc etc. But at the end, unlike movies, in real life people dont change their behavior for anyone including their kids/parents. So believe me when i say this, even your husband will not be able to change his mother’s behavior. All he can do is that acknowledge that she is wrong and help you deal with the situation. This goes back to the first lesson i learned after getting married that is everyone can make mistakes and can be wrong including our mothers. As a son, we never see our mothers’ other side until another woman come into our lives.
I understand how it is when the in-laws do this. But if it's just 5 days in 5 to 6 months I suggest just suck it up and let it be.
Ignore their words. Silence is the best weapon otherwise if u say something then issue will also create btw u nd hubby and btw parent and hubby which will lead to bad mental affect on hubby . Same i do
5-6 days per half yearly! You and your husbands should definitely take leaves in rotation during those 5-6 glorious days
Use the time for bonding. There’s not much in life
Just 5 days? Consider yourself lucky, sister. Just ignore them and move on.
There is no advice that can fix a bad mentality towards one's own family members. If you can endure it few days a year, that's great. If not, maybe draw up some boundaries but it comes at the risk of worsening your relationship with them. They may become more hostile and difficult.
