How to find 'your people' in a new place?

I think that moving to a new city (bangalore in my case) for a job has overall been a great thing for me professionally and even personally. Socially, however, it's been a rollercoaster ride for sure.

I had like 4 close friends till college. All of them are in different cities/countries now. I had a girlfriend in college but we broke up right before I had to move here so the next 6 months were quite a strange phase in life :)

Now ever since I've moved here, I have some friends but becoming 'that' close with them simply seems impossible. Because up until school or college, we had so much free time, you could practically hang out all day. Now, you're at work till like 8. And on the weekends, well I just catch up with myself (sleep, laundry, cleaning and grocery and we're sitting on sunday night by then 😭)

Also, ever since I've got a job, there is a sense of guilt because I always thought I would never even take up a job and start something of my own (maybe fail at it later, sure but at least give it a shot). But now, I look at my parents and always feel that I should contribute to the family as much as I can. So if I quit my job and depend on them suddenly, it would be a burden on them. For this reason, I've also been meaning to start some meaningful side hustle while I'm out here. I haven't been very successful at it yet.

I want to know how to surround myself with the kind of people who want a life like myself (even at 24): low noise, not a lot of partying on the weekends, working on something meaningful as quickly as possible, and not engaging in the 'easy taboos' of today (drugs, alcoholism, meaningless sex, you name it). Now of course, almost everyone WANTS a life like this but maybe some of you who have been able to achieve this to a varying degree could shed light on how they did it/are doing it, I'll be really grateful because I'm truly struggling.