How to find women who are active on their careers and wish to have a family too, organically?
Hi everyone.
I am a software engineer and all my life, I have majorly focused on my career.
I am a simple guy, like no drink or smoke, and the only interaction I have now is office. Add gym and work escalations, yeah, the time is just killing itself. I don't club or typically the modern stuff, people in corporate do.
People around me are settling down, it just made me to think what I want from me as well? I realised I can be only with someone who is active on her career as well, and who wishes to have a family too. But they will also be too busy in their lives, and might be wondering where can they find their partner as well?
I wish to know the other person for a few years, face lows together, and support each other and grow as adults, after that tie the knot if she says yes.
From my side, tbh, I can man up and become more strong. A strong financial foundation built from scratch and a mindset to solve problems. But, how can I find her organically, and that too, after I always got a no?
Asking here, because I need genuine advice. I know this post will get a lot of hate, but if possible pls answer from a perspective of someone who needs to be guided.
Thanks.
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I am virgin by choice. And the only reason I am is because I couldn't find that bond with anyone. Sex should be byproduct of love and not the other way around. If my partner had previous relationships, it depends how her nature is currently as compared to her past, given she wasn't into hookups and casual stuff. Serious relationships are appreciated.
- What if she earns more than you?
No issues, her career, her path, if we can retire early, then that's the best thing
Some information I need to share, because I got some queries in my dms.
- What I bring to the table? A person serious about career and a mindset to solve problems. I do have creative intelligence through my hobbies of art, sketching, photography and writing poems.
But above all, a promise to become strong for myself, so she can feel safe.
A lot of work is left in this aspect and currently being worked on.
- How can you guarantee you will achieve this much salary by that time? Do you wish your partner to earn the same?
I am working hard for myself, because I wanna experience life in the best possible way, and so my efforts will be 100%. Whatever the results, I will keep moving forward.
Ahm.. no, more likely, the combined income should be sufficient enough to live a standard of living we both agree and work together to increase it whenever we both agree.
- Why would someone look at you and why would they choose you?
As I said, my physical appearance is average, although I am decent heighted at 5 10 5 11, but no one ever approached me.
I can work on my appearance more once I am stable in my career. But gym is currently going on.
So, it will not be she choosing me, but more like, we talked and naturally it went because there was alignment.
- What about dating apps and AM?
Dating apps, didn't worked for.me and I am not into hookups. AM will be the last resort, but I want someone, whom I can grow together with for 4 5 years and tie the knot after that.
AM setting would mean pressure and I am definitely not at that age.
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If your family is poor it is impossible to get a bride with a good job and income equivalent to yours is difficult because women and their parents will always chase higher.
The ones you might get may have a low paying job and would like to settle down with you will probably hit the wall now and have a lot of pasts which probably you don’t wanna accept. And yes mostly girls at a lower levels will be more into party/alcohol/hookups etc. They don’t wanna marry just wanna settle down after playing around. Never marry a girl with a poor family background.
Not sure about your age now. But the only option is to find someone is from arranged marriages setup if you can find a girl with a good orthodox family background. But you can’t spend 4-5 years to know each other there you have to marry asap.
Even good women will also find the drinking/smoking cool as it is opposite to their nature and opposites attract.
So at this stage better not to get married unless you are really desperate.