How to find a hubby?
I have been online on a lot of sites (shaadi.com, Bharatmatrimony etc) for 2 years now but it’s been really hard to get a guy.
There have not been many expectations, just a decently well educated guy who can talk with respect to ladies (I find it really hard to get guys of the latter, on these sites)
Those who were successful in arranged marriage, how did you do it? Any tips please. Should I pay some matchmakers? Suggestions are welcome.
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I doubt your expectation is just a well educated guy. There are hidden parameters u arent sharing. Or when the guy presents itself you are making some reason to not proceed
True. Line nahi khatam hoti laundo ki when it comes to job or marriage opportunity
I was about to suggest to try overseas guys, but then I remember….
Analze the life of a boy's mother. Boy are close to them and expect similar things with life partner.
If mom is decent there is fair chance the boy is also the same .
Lol! What kind of bizarre logic is this?
It’s bizarre but so damn true.
Not to sound harsh but here it goes. For an arranged marriage (in normal scenario), anybody listing on matrimony website is a red flag. You either don't have social connections (🚩), or nobody wants to recommend you a proposal because of your red flags. So a mutual connection arranged marriage is always the way to go.
It's a numbers game. 100 matches/people you speak to = 10 interesting ones = 2-3 potential partners. Keep looking, you'll get there.
Do check your standards though, if you're looking for attributes like more than 6 ft tall or earns a bomb, you will find very few options and conversely those guys will have a lot more options than you do.
Don't lock a wedding unless you spend at least a few months knowing your potential partner and having at least one fight/argument to see how they react to fights.
That doesn't mean you initiate an argument for the sake of this, but you need to look out for it. Underrated skill is to stay calm in tense situations and steer towards peace. Men often have a hard time controlling their emotions.
Don't pay matchmakers, it's not worth it. Dating apps have a way bigger catalog of people that matchmakers will never be able to compete with.
Good insight. Thanks buddy.
I have never understood the logic of having atleast one fight. It is just too biased an emotion to use as your benchmark. Any couple will fight and they generally learn how to navigate those fights as a couple. That will happen after you have fought multiple times.
Not my place to offer advice, but some genuinely good (sounds so) men commented here. You can speak with them off grapevine Worth giving a shot
https://grapevine.in/post/808462ef-8ae0-4269-aaa3-c683ba1194bb
Ahem ahem! 😬
I find it really hard to get guys of the later
Cause most of the men who talk with respect to ladies don't end up in these sites. They easily get their partner on their own.
I also suggest joining activities or clubs you like and meet people organically if possible instead of relying on these things.
Fortunately or unfortunately, these sites have made the potential pool large so that you can key in your search params and find top matches. However, top matches may have different criteria than yours. Even if it matches, there is always someone new who is joining every week so the match or the tendency is to keep the match on hold and find a better match. After all what is the urgency?
Absolutely true ...main reason today for not getting the right match... because the next right match is a swipe away....and it's true for both sides...
Also, you should use these sites for discovery only. Rest of the verification and kundali matching etc should be done offline like the good old days.
