ZoomyKoala
ZoomyKoala

How to build trust with your newly wed partner?

I recently got married, it was an arranged marriage. We both are polar opposites. I dont go around telling my family or her family about our day to day affairs. But she gives full report of my life and my family's affairs to her family. During both family get togethers, I come to know that she has given complete info of my life. Her extended family also knows my complete life routine/friends/finances, etc.

I brought it to her notice already but seems she still informs them everything. How do I have this conversation with her and make sure I am able to build trust with her?

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SparklyCupcake
SparklyCupcake

Bhai sales main ho, deep dive karo, why she informs. Does she not trust you? Is she in general someone who shares everything with her family?

DerpyQuokka
DerpyQuokka

Developing Trust is the process, maintaining is ones Loyality and understanding towards another. You should talk with her quietly and in easiest ways make her understand that not to share everything with everyone. I'm female singal whenever I go out either it's for academic purposes or work related.my parents and siblings become concerned. I'm not married yet
But i understand after marriage you enter into different phase of life . She might be living in that environment where she tells everything related to her to everyone . Marriage is beautiful journey develop things with understanding and deal with maturity. Make her understand as you both are the sailor of your life together. Tell her don't share about such personal things related to finances n etc. Talk and clear the things. Take care of both
God bless you both with lots of happiness and togetherness.

BouncyCupcake
BouncyCupcake
Essar10mo

Building trust plays key role in marriage longevity and happiness in home.

Work together in home by being a helping hand whatever work she does in home. Prepare breakfast during weekends . Help her in preparation of lunch by cutting vegetables. Understand her, spend time with her know her needs. Add some spice to your marriage life by being romantic.
Don't lie to her. If you do mistakes just inform her. Building trust takes very long time but breaking it needs just a second. Return home on time. If you are late to home please inform her before hand don't give space to negative thoughts.
Go outings on weekends and have dinner outside together. Treat her like a queen then you will feel like a king 👑.

Note:- In professional terms Sales attitude works till you were sold in market. After sales service is the key to build trust in the brand and continue further with you.

ZippyBoba
ZippyBoba
Toddle10mo

What bhai, tum logo ne shaadi online kar li kya?

DerpyQuokka
DerpyQuokka

@MrBlunt yes you are right but understand this they're in their initial phase after marriage things will takes time to develop that quality bond. So before makeing and talking with clarity how can one can give treatment like you are talking about. One shouldn't live in harsh and let others into harsh .

BubblyMuffin
BubblyMuffin
Zoho10mo

Keep her busy may be

JazzyPancake
JazzyPancake

Just only asking her not to share something will actually make her share things behind you instead try having a nice conversation may be it's better to start something totally off from this topic and make her feel valued and then convey how uncomfortable you are sharing everything with other people in a convincing way, and telling her to stop everything instantly may lead to repercussions or unwanted gaps between both of you instead tell her to gradually convey things which needs focus from their family members or which you both feel important to convey to all family members and also tell her that you are not only telling her to follow this for their family members, even in future if someone from your side becomes close also then also make sure you just discuss things between you guys first and then convey to other people

Hope it helps!! Happy married life 🙌

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