How to be an extrovert 101
Make a list of people you know. Friends, family, relatives, acquaintances.
Sort them by city and further sort by acquaintance and close.
Before every weekend (ideally around wed/thu), ping one or two close people and a few acquaintances to check if they're available on the weekend.
If more than 1 person says yes and shows up, you are sorted. Usually it will be your close friend, acquaintances tend to ditch more often.
When traveling, refer to the list and see if there are people you know at your destination. Repeat previous 2 steps.
Do not get disheartened if few or no people show up. People have busy lives, it happens. Don't take it personally. The more often someone cancels, the more likely they are to attend the next one (assuming they actually want to).
If you don't feel like going out, just give the same people a call and catch up with each other. Do not get disheartened if no one picks up. People have busy lives, it happens. Don't take it personally.
Be shameless about wanting to talk or meet, no one really minds people who make an initiative to connect.
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Hey @Kamlesh , Just saw your post. I have few questions -
- What plans should I be making if I am talking to people? I havent done this before and generally, with close friends, I don't have to make plans, it's just random things like checking out new cafe etc. But, my close friends from college are now in US ( all 3 of them) and here, I do have some ex work friends, but I don't think I have anything in common apart from possibly meeting for food.
I was thinking of working on myself for a while now, I will be 26 next month and I feel there are lot of things I wanna fix about me before I start being an extrovert.
I am someone who doesn't really message or call anyone apart from my parents , my gf ( when I had one) and sometimes my very close friends to catchup. I see my roommate who's really good in making friends, like, people come visit him, he plans trips together, there's sometimes weddings he attends of them etc. I just when I see these happen in front of me, I get anxious whether I am wrong in some way and a bit jealous
Don't need to plan elaborate stuff, just the same as you make with friends. Going for coffee, street food, checking out parks and local places etc.
Don't need to message or call people regularly. It will be weird if you do it for acquaintances. Just once a month per contact is enough. That too easier to make plans and meet rather than talking on call but that's up to you.
If you have a flatmate who is extroverted, just emulate him. Observe and copy. Make plans, go for plans, meet people and stay in touch. It's not that hard when you start doing it. Just initial anxiety you need to get over.
Be shameless and don't take anything personally.
Bro I want to be an extrovert but whenever I go out with some friend or group friends I end up spending around 2k to 3k. So If I go on every weekend then it will cost me at least 8k to 10k. 🥲🥲
You don't need to spend to be an extrovert. Be assertive about your budget limit and don't buy stuff you don't want. no one forces anyone to spend. You're putting that social pressure on yourself.