How okay is to find someone right for you?
31F, living in Delhi, Can anyone tell me how far is it okay to start looking for love after being married twice and divorced? Both time they were mama’s boys and only listened to their mothers and disregarded me as their wife.
I have not got right person yet but I want to find someone and settle down with him. Have a family of my own. Want to know from you all. Thanks.
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Find someone whose father only is alive
Idk why I loled at this. Modern problems require modern solutions
Or someone with no parents ...
Try getting some therapy and maybe connect with friends for a while. In metros it isn't uncommon to get married at maybe 33-35. So just have the locus of your happiness in you instead of someone else first. Once youve accepted yourself then you can move to finding a good match
Been into therapy but therapies are no cheaper. They literally hole in the pockets so kinda painful to pay so much
Getting along friends is good but most of them are married by now and have their own families and a person who’s gone through so much people feel that I’m being Sad but I don’t have fun things to share as they do
Try to find someone around you, in ofc or anywhere, only look for connection, meet a couple of times and later after they get to know "you" tell about your past experiences and all. Please introspect also, in some way every guy loves his mother a lot.
I’ll surely consider that advice. So what girls love her family too and understand how to manage it after marriage. I don’t know when these boy mothers will stop mothering his adult son. That’s a big problem in Indian society that every newly married girl faces
It's not wrong to find another partner. But it seems that you are rushing too much into marriage out of parental pressure and FOMO on kids and a 'settled life'. And, even this search for a third marriage seems to be because of your parents, since you mentioned that your parents want to find the 'right' partner. Don't YOU want anything for yourself?
You cannot change these men's behavior but can definitely change your own outlook on marriages. If you don't want to get into meaningful relationships yourself, you will attract similar kind of people again and again. Remember, your vibe attracts your tribe! Someone correctly mentioned here that you will have to break this pattern yourself.
Before getting into another marriage, try to heal yourself completely, because 2 divorces must have given you some sort of trauma.
Also, try to understand the true meaning of love, marriage and partnership.
All the best!
@Coffeebabe
Look for love not marriage
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to find the right person and build a loving, stable life—even after setbacks. Wanting love and companionship is human. It’s important to remember that no one is perfect—sometimes you’ll have to adjust, and sometimes he will. A good relationship is about mutual respect, understanding, and effort from both sides. Don’t lose hope—your past doesn’t define your future.