How many real "friends" do you actually have?
Folks, as friendship day comes to a close (didn't even know it was today tbh), I wonder how many of you actually have actual friends?
I'll go first. I'd say I only have one. The rest of them aren't really friends, but "fleeting connections that would break once our shared time space or context is over.
As an adult and as a woman, it's so incredibly hard to make friends and have genuine connections. I've put myself out there, gone to meetups, built hobbies, but nothing has clicked. I'm just mad at myself for not finding friends in college tbh :p
How did you find your closest friend?
One interview, 1000+ job opportunities
Take a 10-min AI interview to qualify for numerous real jobs auto-matched to your profile 🔑None.. at the end of the day it feels lonely 🥺
Me too
Lots of Tech nerds, most corporate folks etc are generally mentally weak incels who don’t know how to be real friends. All their decisions are optimised and calculated for the best outcome. To have real friends one has to be a real friend first. One has to at times sacrifice or do things that don’t make complete logical sense. One has to have little bit guts to help/support a friend when they need them. Real friendship also means being happy seeing your friend succeed which is generally tough for such folks. I guess that’s probably a big reason why a lot of people here don’t know what true friendship is. In most cases Women generally don’t have any real friends because they’e either jealous of their female friends or just lie to them on their faces. To experience true brotherhood you have to be brave, courageous, compassionate, caring and also be able to roast really well and be able to take fun insults from your friend who only wants the best for you.
I have a different question why do you "need" friends?
What actually is a friend?
Did cavemen have friends or were all of them family?
Is it a lack of family around you (generic) that you need friends?
Does a family feel distant because of a generation gap despite being within physical proximity?
How did cavemen deal with the generation gap?
I think you can estimate the number of friends I have with the questions 😅😂
Cavemen did have friends. Humans are social beings, have always been. We thrive by building and sustaining connections. The longest running Harvard study on happiness found that the most important factor for happiness is the quality and depth of relationships someone has over their lifetime. So friendships are important and we need to give that area of our life as much thought and consideration as our career, relationship and family. I know it's easier said than done, because survival is what takes up most of our time. But if we try and make time for socialising with people over doom scrolling, we might just get happier.
I completely agree with your point and have a follow-up question on the caveman friends part.
Do distant cousins in a tribe count as cousins or friends?
If they count as cousins or any other sibling connection whatsoever will a caveman's friend be from another tribe?
Won't it be really hard finding other tribes back then and by extension friends?
And there was no formal language back then so how did the caveman tell his friend that he was his friend?
Zero, and it's ok to be honest
I've got a few, but seeing as I've just graduated recently, I don't know how many of them are going to stick around. We've already stopped talking to each other as frequently.
Making new friends really is tough after college, it doesn't really feel like you have many opportunities to just meet people with no other expectations.
For what it's worth, just because a connection doesn't last, doesn't mean it's not a "real" friendship. I have made a lot of fond memories of people I am no longer in touch with. They were real friends at that time. Just because something doesn't last, doesn't make it shallow.
As for advice in making more friends, I don't know. I'm in a similar boat as you, so if you ever figure it out, I'd appreciate the info.
Yeah going through the same..
At school I had 2 genuine friends, but destiny had different plans we got busy in our carrer, At present none , honestly craving for one genuine connection 🥺
Hey man! I feel ya. I guess that's how life is and when we grow we do shed a few people, at times everyone around us but feel free to reach out if you need someone to rant out to or maybe a pillar to lean onto 🙂
I am an introvert. All introverts can relate to me that we don't make friends, we are just adopted by some good souls as friends😅. I barely remember an incident where I have initiated the conversation.
Zero... And I have learnt to deal with it... Although sometime I feel relieved that I don't have to deal with someone else's issues...
One childhood friend who is with me throughout all the situations and whom I value the most
And there are 2 friends during my 12th, 2 from my graduation, 4 from my preparation period, 2 from my post graduation...
We don't connect that frequently but whenever we meet it's like we never leave, I'm a secretive person who doesn't like to share things like how's my life but if they know they will be there to help me. They will be there for me...
Ok even i have less frnds but I'm happy with small circle, it's less chik chik School frnd 1 Undergraduate frnd 1 Apartment frnd 1 Total 3 friends Out of which i meet occasionally with 1 Apartment one Rest are close but we meet less And I have 500 contacts out of which just these 3 texted at frndship day I'm happy with their smaller circle
I feel like texting for friendship. But I know it's little awkward