How introvert are you?
When I stepped into my first job (almost 5 years ago), it felt like a whole new world. That’s when I truly realized I’m an introvert. Until then, I thought I was just focused on studies and getting a job, never had trips or outings (pure nerd stuff lol).
Whenever I meet new people: "Hey, how are you?" … "Bye." That’s it. No more words.
Office parties? Mostly a NO for me. Fun Fridays or casual fun meetings - I stay on mute most of the time. Honestly, it often feels like people are laughing at fake things (corporate jokes 🤣).
Coming to friends - I’ve had very few. Some were from school days, and now they mostly call for money (you know how that goes… like putting money in a temple hundi). One was a narcissist guy from engineering days, so I cut him off. Always talking politics, projecting himself as superior, and putting others down.
Coming to GF - never had one. Never even had female friends. Mostly because I was a nerd and never really tried. In college, maybe talked to 1-2 people. At work, you know how it is - strictly work, no non-work stuff.
Nowadays, it's me chatGpt, gemini and some other AIs.
How about you? Anyone like me?
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Can relate with you on a lot of things (except for a few). I too realized that I'm an ambivert when I went to college... Introvert around extroverts and extrovert around introverts.. 😂 kinda odd personality..
Sometimes I feel that too, I turn extrovert around close people. That switch is actually kind of cool and necessary 😂
I was same all along, even did not generally reciprocated to anyone who approached for friendship and found it really hard to talk with girls specially.
😌 dude .. 🙌🏻🤝🏻.. u not alone in this
Thanks man 🤝🏻 feels good to know I’m not alone 😌
Same🥲
I tried the MBTI personality test (for fun) when I was in college. Turned out to be 100% Introverted (I am an INFJ).
I have been weird and awkward all my life. Working in consultancy is no joke. The amount of fake smiles and pretending to be interested in speaking to strangers has been really challenging. But the go getter part of me (who wants to survive and sustain) tries to push myself (a teeny tiny bit). It has been a trial and error kind of experience. Now I am 97% introverted. Yayyy I guess? 😅🤣
With you in this. We try, we know we do. But how far that goes... only time can tell.
That “push just enough to survive” part is very relatable. Consultancy can be especially tough for introverts with all the social energy it demands 😅 If you’re open to it, I’d love to hear more about your approach to becoming a little less introverted and maybe exchange a few tips over DM or here.
Even though a lot of people I know, not a single one that I can talk to with my heart out.
Even my GF. One time I got vulnerable in front of her, never again. Worst mistake of my life
I am similar to some extent, I only have few friends and need to really connect with someone at emotional level. Especially having spent most of time in west, I was quietest person in the team.
But I always had few trusted friends. Especially after my masters, and I started working there were lot of new joiners. Impromptu lunch, weekday dinner and movies, driving around beautiful American countryside on weekends or activities. But as group grew from 4 to 5 of us to 10+, it became kind of awkward.
Now it's weird as most of my friends are married and moved with their life. I also moved to India, and I have few school friends but so far no close friends who I am in touch with. Becomes tough after 30s if not managed correctly.
Haha, feels good to know I’m not alone , turns out there are others wired exactly like this! 😄 I literally rehearsed this comment about 100 times in my head before hitting “reply ” Peak introvert behavior.
Haha totally get that 😄 same here, half the conversation already happened in my head before posting. Guess that’s our superpower: overthinking before speaking. Nice to know there are others wired the same way 🤝
Me too… have no friends and no plans