How good are you at forgiving?
People like me tend to overthink everything, especially when it comes to making sure nobody else gets hurt even if it means going out of my way and staying invisible and adjusting as much as possible. If someone hurts me accidentally, I can forgive and let it go pretty easily. But when the hurt is deliberate, it cuts deep, and honestly, forgiving just doesn’t come naturally to me then.
So, what I do is distance myself, wish them well, and hope i never cross paths again. I move forward, hoping things will work out for both of us separately.
Sometimes, though, I wonder if I’m being too harsh, because even if I say I’ve moved on, I notice there’s still anger lingering every time they appear. I feel rude for acting this way, but I just fail to convince my logical brain to be able to forgive when the harm was intentional. That just stays within and takes too too long a time to cool down, and even when it does..there is little to no aspiration to connect again with them.
While it's easy to forgive, it's impossible to forget. That's how our brains are wired and there's little we can do to change that. But here's what you can do, you can choose to leave the past where it belongs and create a better environment now and move forward.
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I hate only 3 or 4 people max in my life till date. I can't forgive them nor do I wish them well. I'm like just get lost, whatever is with you good for you, may we never cross paths again.
Hmm…for me sometimes forgiving is a just a way to let things move on for both. If not forgiven, both remain in that zone, none moves ahead truly.
