How do you hold a conversation (text or in person)?
When I am talking to people (irrespective of gender), my instant communication continuer to share an example of same thing they talked about.
Example 'I went to Mumbai' 'Oh I remember when I went to Mumbai'
'I love mountains' 'Oh I hate mountains, I like beaches better' (nobody even asked for my opinion)
If not this then - Hmmm, yea, okay, Cool, Great, That's nice, sweet, 😊, 🙌, ✌️ And the conversation dies.
There should a third way. What's that?
Talking product sense with Ridhi
9 min AI interview5 questions
Raita: I went to Mumbai. Biryani: Oh nice, how was it? What places did you visit? Did you try the vada pav there?
Papad: I love mountains. Biryani: Oh! What places have you been to? Do you like paragliding or just enjoy mountains from a safe distance 😋
Elaichi: I was at… Biryani: GTFO
Hey you look beautiful
Someone please help to continue
girl: 🙄 uhh... thanks (awkward silence if you both don't know each other well).
if you know her <2 months, start with something like "hey I like you hair, its feels super smooth what shampoo do you use".
make her answer in long sentences, smile, hold eye contact, ask her questions that reflect her choices
I will find it weird if smbdy does that with me…smooth hair n all🙊.
Curiosity.
Be curious and be a good listener. Show that you ACTUALLY care about what the person is saying rather than just pretending to hear it. If you can do this, half of the job is done from your end. And if the other person is curious as well, the rest of the conversation just flows, and you won’t even realize. :)
Never pretend or fake just to have a conversation. Because chances are you yourself will not enjoy it, forget about the awkwardness which it creates. Curiosity is something that comes from within, so I can understand not everyone can do this, but it’s always worth giving a try because you never know. :)
Start talking on the point that the other person ends. Ask a question when the conversation starts to fade or after 2 such points. your talking point must invoke a memory or passion of the other person. randomly inject a personal story in relation to something that the other person says. That personal story can be random or even tangential you your main point of conversation. Your conversation will never be stopped by the opposite party. Even if it fades that person will step in ad ask a question and continue the conversation as long as it invokes their memory or passion
Main rule, "never correct the person or give an opinion" If the person is of opposite sex - one more rule -"never disagree".
The last line is 🔥 advice and I so agree!
Hold a wallet and a bank account with lots of money in it. Conversation and a lot of other things will take care of themselves.
How do poor people talk?
You shouldn't do what you stated in example. If someone says i went to Mumbai and if you want to engage them you should takk about "their" experience not immediately draw the conversation on yourself, reeks of self centred personality.
Same for mountain example. Correct answer, i.e. only if you want to engage them should be which mountains you been to? Do u hike? Etc etc
Those are perfectly good replies if you dont care.
💁♀️ that is what I said
India mein ek hi trend hai, starts with aaj jyada garmi/ thanda/barsaat (contextual) hai, and ends with 1: if a guy then to some political Or cricket convo, 2: ladki hui to some brand, restaurant or travel destination.