How do you deal with intimate compatibility issues?
Looking for your views on the best possible solution to deal with intimacy compatibility issues with your partner. I am fully energetic, romantic and intense where as my partner is more into emotional(non-physical), non-exciting, formality kind of acts
Did you discuss this with your partner ? What did she say? Only your partner will know the real reason, we can only guess.
No proper response. Smiled and ignored
Then have that conversation on a serious note with her and be very accepting of her. 8 years is a long time and you should know why she is not into getting physical. She might be asexual and not even know she is or she could have fear of intimacy. You need to be her safe place and build that trust with her first for her to be able to tell you why she hesitates.
Hey females are mostly shy. They won't open up so easily until they're very comfortable with you. Sometimes, they want to take things really slow. Taking slow is sometimes more exciting and better.
My suggestion: Start with basics and her reaction. Don't try to get intimate right now. Tell her she looks beautiful, start with a simple touch for a week. Touch her cheeks, hold her hands, massage her foot. Kiss her, not deeply but basics for a week. Then go for deep kisses, and role play... See if she's comfortable or not... Take atleast 2 weeks of time for role play... See if she is distancing her or trying to continue with foreplay... If she is comfortable, then you can take it forward
Foreplay I can understand but what's role play between couples? I only saw that in porn i guess that's not what you mean.
Okay I have one question in my mind. My partner is super active and all good between us. But i feel he is not emotionally connected to me. So how can I make him addicted to me both physical and emotional?
Are there any noticable signs you feel which makes you believe he is not emotionally connected? Generally, when intimacy is going perfect between a couple then emotional life is much healthier. If that's not the case then there might be few reasons behind it. Usually I follow the practice where i keep a good balance of emotional vs physical connection still deep down I feel, I am failed to extract a quality intimacy out of her.
