How can I make my family realise?
(1/2) My mother and brother raised me ( I don't have my father) they paid my college fees, coaching fees and everything till i got the job. Once i got it I helped them build a luxury house in villages that cost me 40L. Also i got married at my own expenses which 10-12L. It has been 6yrs since i am living on paycheck to paycheck. I have given them everything they wanted for these 6 years. Now i feel like my brother has taken me for granted. I feel like an ATM machine. But i am a younger one so I am not able to call this out directly to my brother. They love me so much and i love them too. But here in Bengaluru survival is hard. I too have some vision for my future. Kindly suggest!!!
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(2/2) it's not like i don't want to help but paying for their luxury feels heavy and even if i earn in lacs, i don't even have 40k in my back account. I too want to build my own future, and raise some funds for a house.
Clear communication helps. Explain the whole situation and ask them to lower their expectations
Do 1 thing, tell a little lie to them.
Tell them that your organization is facing fanancial crisis so thay have introduced a larger variable amount which contains Company's performance as an index.
So if company is not doing well then you will get say 20% 30% less salary.
Also tell them who doesn't agree to t hem they're asking them to leave the organization.
And as company is not doing well this year, you will get say 30% less salary.
As they love you, they care for you, they will limit their plans on luxury and you won't have to ask them to limit the spending , also you will be able to save that koney for future
They helped when they had nothing. Your vision for future should include them. If not, sorry to say, you are selfish.
A long time back when i was still a student, some one gave me this advice "there will come a time, when you have to choose between relation and money, choose relationship. Money can be earned at any time in life."
I agree with you, but i have given them my all for these 6 years. And if i get laid off I won't be able to survive here even for a month. Don't you think that it would be unfair for me also. My mother understands this and highly forces me not to contribute at home but on the other hand my brother does not realise this. He does not even talk progressive, when i suggest that if we start something of our own at our home, he doesn't acknowledge.
Cut ties