[harsh truth] Diagnosed with Impotence at Toit, Indiranagar...
I was smoking a cigarette at Toit this Saturday and I got my fertility report at that time. Came to now that I am impotent, and sperm motility is extremely poor that I can only have kids with assisted insemination.
Weirdly I am still calm. This is not a troll post if you think it might be. Just something I wanted to get off my chest. I am feeling extremely lonely and I can't share this with my parents right now. My wife and I were trying for an entire year and finally decided to get tested.
It hurts but we will now go for IVF. Hoping for the best. I really want to have kids and I hope that god blesses us with a baby. Else we will probably adopt.
I was told exactly the same stuff 5 years back - that the shape of your sperms' heads are wobbly (or whatever random stuff) and ivf was the only way. And I went for a smoke with results in my hand.
I quit smoking the next day.
Started working out.
Went to bed on time - 8 hrs. Cut off phones/TV 2hrs before.
Consciously tried to keep my thoughts away from 'having a child' and instead building better intimacy with my wife.
Practiced gratitude and build a greater bond with Divine.
4 months later we concieved. We have a 4 year old now.
Our medical histories are different, but it is possible. IVF isn't the only way. @Gooner7
Hmm. Stress can do that. If you don’t mind me asking how old are you but all the very best in your quest to having children
I ll offer a contrarian opinion. Could be triggerering. I have a 2 month old kid. Raising a kid is frustrating. And the daily effort of raising a kid is too much. Carrying kid for 1hrs till they sleep 4x a day even at 3am in morning. Leaving aside all your work just to see what is bothering your kid. They cry 10 times a day, you will have sleepless nights for 6months atleast. Cost of raising, kids in this economy is too much for next 20yrs as well.
If you are going the adoption route, I would suggest thinking of adopting a 2 yr old kid. Skipping the 2 yrs of early pain.
Also, hopefully your rest of the health is fine. Maybe get a second lab test done. Ask recent parents of their daily pain in details. rest upto you.
No Pain. No Gain Bro. I know your current phase will require a lot of sacrifices and thoughts you have poured are common as it will be frustrating but patience is the key. It is your own baby. So show some love to you and your kid.
I love my kid. I hate the current inflated economy.
Sorry to hear buddy, not the ideal news to hear. Good you it off your chest. However, this is far more common than you think and IVF is far more prevalent and widely used now (personally have a kid via IVF, had complications too)
Yes, it is more involved and sometimes painful (sometime more of mental pressure than physical for the men, both for the woman going through it).
Acceptance is first step. Knowing IVF is safe and more common now. Embrace that reality and go through the ivf process (it’s a probability game, ours was third time success).
Lovely to see you want to have a kid and am sure it will happen. Good things happen, sometimes it’s delayed. DM me if you want any info
Doesn’t matter what others think. Not the end of the world buddy. Stay strong during this time. This too shall pass!
How old are you?
Fertility rates have gone down drastically among the urban population due to poor lifestyle.
I never smoked in my life, nor did I drink. My weight was under control and I always slept for 7+ hrs, still I had low sperm motility and low count of healthy sperms. Our gynecologist suggested that we don't waste time and start IVF process.
I just couldn't come to terms that as a perfectly healthy man I was not able produce quality sperms. Went for a second opinion and got myself checked from a good doctor and after a lot of tests he said there's nothing physically wrong with me. He suggested me some meds and a few lifestyle changes. He asked me to follow it for 6 months and guaranteed me that we will be able to conceive normally.
Lo and behold, I'm now a dad of 3 month old kid! So yeah it's not the end of your world
Is there anything can be done to improve the sperm motility? I am unaware about the subject hence I asked. Also is it something genetic or lifestyle?
Stay strong buddy and never lose hope
