Growing concern which is terrifying?
So i have recently been observing that many men are single not by choice but women are by choice.
Also people who meet on dating apps become buddies as well therefore more contacts and bigger friends circle and so on.
But on the other hand those who aren't successful in dating apps also not are able to get someone irl mostly it's like obviously looks are predominant factor many times.
But on the other hand those getting matches get approached irl as well plus they became quite open and confident with opposite gender hence more brownie points.
So this vicious cycle leads to more cheating and infidelity by those guys who have lots of options with them, but on the other end who are single mostly don't even have a single person to talk to.
And this cycle will keep on going and going, this is a serious concern and those getting dates through apps in men are only top 10 percent ones who date most of the women on apps.
Is this what adulthood was that the testing waters are so hard to sustain if you fall in the outside 10 percent category.
I think this is a harsh truth of life that one has to go through cuz everything in life can be sustained without looks I think but here it stings like a bee.
For my case, I think upbringing also plays a major factor. My life is quite interesting and I am sure girls might find it appealing as well but have never been encouraged to make girl friends so even the idea of getting into a relationship feels like cheating. Everything is linked to success. What happens if I don’t do well in life? Am I a bad son if I go after girls when I should be focusing on settling fast just to marry someone? Also this kind of upbringing has also made me scared and uncomfortable approaching girls and trying dating apps.
You can apply the same logic for good jobs. They will always be rare in the market and only for a small population. Does that mean you stop trying to get one? No.
Get out of this loser mentality and go find a partner. Reinstall bumble, learn how it works and get your first date.
I'm an avg looking guy who didn't even know how to speak to women. If I can do it, anyone can. Just takes practice.
You ain't average lol. But i don't have any biases or loser mentality per say, this post was not a put down to people who use dating apps but there are literally a lot of guys who aren't able to find success there and becoming too sad.
So you found success on bumble? @Bhidu
Most are not single by choice. They think they have a choice when young but after a few years, their ego takes over and they are single claiming it "by choice".
I said that they aren't by choice its cuz they couldn't get anyone. But mostly women are single by choice
Bas kr bhai 😭
What were u expecting on dating app lol
I don't think dating apps works anyways.. I put some animated pic and keep right swiping to almost everyone unless there's a strong 'attitude' I notice. I've only been able to 3-4 ppl, 2 of them were very young which ended up talks on studies.. one of them was a aunty frm gujrat used to exchange goodmorning texts. Its not for serious partner i think for mere fun, you shouldn't judge yourself based on these apps.
