Girls are being scammed in marriages as well
Tier 1 MBA (one of the IIMs) approached on online matchmaking website. Extremely interested right from the beginning. Says that he loves the girl deeply after one month and pretends to be the ideal guy. Girl gets married. Asks for salary after 4 days of marriage. Girl refuses. Entire family starts isolating her and illtreating her. Girl desperately wants to save her marriage and starts giving the money while taking care of all her expenses. In laws still not satisfied and start asking for 'gifts'. Girl can't ask her parents to pay so much. In laws start torturing the Girl (not talking, not taking her to relatives, complete isolation and constant threats to go back to her parent's house). Girl goes into depression and is crying to sleep every night. Husband constantly gaslights and manipulates her to prove that she is the cause of all problems and that he is suffering because of her. Girl is pushed out of the house 8 times in 11 months but is foolish and madly in love and doesnt want to believe that she is being abused. 11 months after the marriage, the Girl is told that husband doesnt want to continue the marriage and has spoken to a lawyer already. Girl still believes that she can salvage the relation. The boy files for divorce and refuses to give back clothes or wedding jewelry. Guy's relatives tell the Girl that his family was creating grounds for divorce since 6 months and he is already looking for another bride. The girl has already invested lakhs of rupees in this marriage by now.
What should the Girl do now? If she claims alimony or maintainance, will it be wrong?
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Grapevine goes silent when society shows girl face problems too.
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Nothing like that , it's just that your post is not getting any traction .
In such cases a girl should not only file for alimony , but also money she lost , and compensation for harassment as well imo .
How come you reached this conclusion? Just because a post doesn't have enough comments within its hours of posting?
The law is on her side. Why not file 498A and dowry allegation here?
She can easily prove it. She gets salary in her bank account. Most money she has paid others wud be transferred etc. Even she paid in-laws in cash, she can mention it.
Her in-laws will be arrested ASAP and she will get all the money back if convicted. The court will even dissolve the marriage and force the in-laws to pay damages.
No arrests in 498A anymore. Yes, she has all the transactions and chats, audios, videos. Court doesn't dissolve marriage just like that. The point of this post was that the general sentiment where almost everyone is cursing women who go to Courts for justice is absolutely incorrect and pathetic.
I have seen a live example wherein the husband clearly cheated on the wife and has a son too. Court says that they can not approve the divorce on this ground as the woman should try to live with husband to resolve (give him a chance). This way the woman can not remarry and she is getting older too.
My very next door neighbor has an illegitimate child and both wife and mistress are living along without a divorce. There was a lot of domestic violence before too but it stopped after the mistress called upon police.
Really do not understand where does the implementation fail?
Went to Spiti during the winter break and discovered a fascinating ritual still practiced in Himachal, itâs called âreverse dowry.â In this tradition, when a marriage takes place, the groom is required to give money, land, or a piece of property to the bride. This ensures that, even if the marriage doesnât work out, the woman has something tangible to fall back on. Itâs a thoughtful custom aimed at securing the brideâs future, especially if she isnât financially independent. A reminder that some traditions are rooted in practicality.
Alimony and maintenance would be perfect for a leech who wants to such money from others.
I bet he'll be half dead if he has to pay even a penny to the poor thing. So better go this path.
Girl should countersue for emotional and mental distress followed by data backed reportings (monthly salary transactions, texts which show what all has happened, neighbours testimony if required, etc,). She should either ask for a clean break or alimony. Courts usually favour females in such hearings and without substantial evidence the male side usually is considered at fault (also pre nup doesnât exist in India because of this bias)
What was the point where dissatisfaction and resentment from the guy started in marriage? Seems like a very one sided narrative.
No guy in urban India is fool enough to file for a divorce without any strong grounds
Lack of dowry, not handing over complete salary, not giving wedding jewelry to his mum. Speaking up about things feeling wrong. These were the main issues.
Yes there are guys in urban India foolish enough to file for a divorce without any strong grounds.
Filing divorce or any case for that matter doesn't really need any ground atleast in the beginning. One only needs an allegation or a narrative and most people start this game to create pressure on the opposite party. It is only when the case reaches the stage of evidence do these people realise that mere allegations don't work in the courts, they must be backed with legit evidence.
Nobody denies that girls get scammed and get tortured in marriages. Point is, there are enough laws for them and stringent enough. In this case, I am sure she can lodge several cases on various grounds, and if backed with evidences, law will act very swiftly. Alimony and maintenance are next steps, I donât know how they work for well earning woman, but I am sure courts will do justice if they apply. But as for what should the girl do- she should surly lodge mental torture, harassment related cases, even dowry case will apply if she has some evidences of demands being made for stuffs.
This is precisely why I posted this in the first place. While there are laws that support women, they definitely aren't stringent enough and definitely not swift. This girl has all evidence, audios , videos even medical reports. The police still refuses to take action because the accused jobs and have bribed the Investigating officer. We like to believe that the laws support women, but the ground reality is entirely different. The system supports who ever has a fatter wallet. The uproar after Atul Subash case (very unfortunate) and the hate that followed for every woman who approached the court and stood up for herself was wrong. It's not women who should be blamed, the corrupt system is at fault.
Surely, if the groom and his family are getting out of line then the girl and her parents can definitely approach lawyers , police station or can take help from some NGOs. She can resort to resolve the situation if not then the concerned authorities can take action as deemed appropriate.
The police is very corrupt, doesn't really do anything. The state of Women in this country is really really bad.
