Girl Trouble - Am I Bad?
When I was doing my masters in economics last year, I met a girl. I was instantly attracted to her, however never got a chance to ask her out. Eventually I did, and we went out a couple of times. I really liked her but I think she considered me a good friend. I got mixed messages from her. Once, she sends me text messages in the middle of the night asking me to take her to lunch tomorrow and another she doesn't reply back to me. Anyway I persisted but eventually she kinda distanced herself from the relationship after we hooked up. I had fallen for her but she wanted no part of anything. Didn't return my calls or texts, or when she did made up excuses to avoid hanging out.
So I told her how I felt. She was angry at me for ruining our friendship even though we hooked up, which she instigated. I never saw her again for the 3 months( she went to Delhi for some work) but she called me occasionally if she needed to talk or something.
So she left and we remained in touch via Whatsapp. On one occasion, I made a passing joke as to how she spent time with every dude there but me. She became very offended and we stopped communication. She started it up again but didn't apologise.
Finally, I actually visited Delhi because another friend of mine was getting married and invited me. I didn't visit her because of time constraints and she became pissed, and wouldn't talk to me, accusing me of doing it on purpose. That was 6 months ago.
I'm going to a friends birthday soon and she's gonna be there.
Would it be bad for me to hold the grudge? Or should I just let it go.
Bear in mind, she avoided me whilst hanging out with others and then accuses me of avoiding her. I don't wanna be a douche but I don't wanna be a pushover, someone who can call me whenever and I'll come running.
Please help Grapevine! 🙏🏻
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Can you tell what hook up means, to this oldie? I read a complete friendship setup and you added this word twice.
Also instigated? Apologise? 🤔
Friends bhi rehna hai.. Hookup bhi karna hai... Commit bhi nahi karna hai... Ignore bhi karna hai... Ignore hone nhi dena hai...
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I were at your place i would have maintained distance.. Why to give "bhaav" to such people..just my opinion :)
Pretty normal activities for Female. Consider yourself lucky to see her soul.
what does this mean?
I agree
Don't be a pushover. But if she has the right to be pissed, you also have the same right if she doesn't talk to you either.
How about you just talk out your frustrations and let her also do the same when you visit Delhi this time. Then you both decide how you wanna move ahead and reach a conclusion on it.
Also, apologize for your comment even if you meant it as a joke. She might have gotten offended as it may not have come off as joke to her. You won't look like a pushover if you apologize, you would if you can't express what you like and always end up doing what the other person in relationship wants
true. i agree with this.
Bro chhod de picha me bhi similar situation me tha you’ll thank yourself later. Jis chij ke lie tujhe itna efforts marna pad raha hai, jo ladka use pasand hai use vo bina efforts ke degi. She just wants attention she don’t want your heart… Have some honour
As a girl , I can say she is just having mood swings and you are not imp to her. ... we just like to seek attention from boys .. so its better to let her go ....