GroovyMochi
Student
Getting insensitive
Recently, I've grown a spine and have developed a justification "if people don't give a shit about my feelings or if I am hurt, and would rather disregard my views, then why should I care about theirs?"
So having that as a moral justification, I've been hurting people with words. Broken a few relations, but I feel good, for I know I didn't cower in front of them by taking the high road and compromising my self respect every time.
It has its drawbacks, but now people think twice before messing with me.
15d ago
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FluffyWaffle
Swiggy15d
You can stand your ground without being a pain in the ass. What you describe is plain selfish. ‘I’ve been hurting people worth words… i feel good’ sadist much?
Drawing boundaries and being a beech aren’t mutually inclusive.
Express your concerns with firm, concise approach no need to go above and beyond to hurt people.
GroovyMochi
Student15d
Yes, its selfish, but I am a firm believer in Justice, especially retribution. I believe criticism should be constructive, and any act of someone being a dick to you should be responded with you being an even bigger dick to them.
FluffyWaffle
Swiggy15d
Kewl
DizzyBoba
Stealth15d
Where do you draw a line though? If you repel everyone you'll be left with no one. Which is worse.
GroovyMochi
Student15d
But I do it as a retaliatory measure. If the person hurts me, i hurt them back x10.
MagicalMochi
Stealth15d
I am on the same road. I find it totally fine. I had struggled enough in life for not opening my mouth and taking all shitty behaviour from others. But now i dont justify or i dont feel like justifying. I just walk away.
Drawbacks: My circle is shrinking but i am ok. I do have peace of mind
PrancingNoodle
Zopper14d
Don't become the very person you hate most
WigglyUnicorn
Stealth15d
That's a very bad path, you'd end up very alone... Beyond repair. And you'd realise, you're able to do all that cause the other person is accomodating it.
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