SparklyLlama
SparklyLlama
Student

Forgive yourself brothers, live again without any regret in mind

23M, always focused on studying, landed a tier 2 college, will be starting my journey soon with a job.

I never worked on dressing sense, gym and self care, even sacrificed travels, didn't interacted with females and basically lived a static life in the room studying. It made my mental health do down the hill and I suffered because of it.

I hated myself for my looks, not having a partner, not having a good job, not studying hard daily. Despite knowing the diagnosis, I wasn't improving?

I tortured my mind, never gave my body appreciation, validation, care which I always expected from other people. How would a mind grow if I consider myself a emotionless machine which doesn't feel anything.

Brothers, forgive yourselves, life is short, play some sport, try gym, even if it's 30 min a day, stay at a nice place, have a walk, participate openly with your hobbies in social clubs. Keep yourselves out there and develop your human heart. Travel, even if it's cheap, click pictures, walk together, share stories.

I will be doing the same, no more regrets. Live again, no one gives a f about you, but only you should, have a deadline, but only on own growth. This is coming from years of inner mental torture.


If you wish to read my story.

My story -----

In school, I always focused on studies, preparing for exams, didn't spent much time with family, didn't got myself involved in school debating competitions, always used to bash my inner self for even slightly less marks as if they were evrything.

In college, I pursued the same thing, zero female friends, male friends only acquaintance. Never dated, played any sport or went to any meetups. Only focused on coding, development, which affected my mental health severly, I was shitting my mind as if there were any eternal reward for all this pain.

Today I have a job, but if I had just lived life normally like others, I bet I would have been able to balance a lot of things and would have definitely improved as a person, and crack a lot better job.

Life is precious brothers, we matter, our warmness does, our kindness helps us and people.

So I will not repeat these mistakes and will live life. I will go out, attend social meetup, meanwhile work on myself, travel with different groups, stay in hostels, participate in NGO activities. Marathons. The world is there for us brothers. For not just once,but always ,let your heart, heart for you. Let your mind feel proud you did great and we will do better than yesterday. Don't let your insecurities become a problem. Become a happy person.

See yourselves in the mirror and feel better that you are improving and will live happily ever after, solve problems and become strong through you for everyone that matters to you.

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SqueakyWalrus
SqueakyWalrus

Bro is all hyped up and super positive. Nice nice.

But you haven't even hit quarterly life crisis yet. So, wait for it and then reflect on this post you shared πŸ˜†

SparklyLlama
SparklyLlama
Student21d

You are talking about someone who has gone through near suicidal mindset, I have pushed myself through a negative ocean.

Bring it on, I will take everything with a smile.

FloatingRaccoon
FloatingRaccoon

"Soon to start job" 😁

Ruko zara, sabr karo.

DizzyTaco
DizzyTaco

Suna hai, sabar ka phal meetha hota hai.

WobblyMuffin
WobblyMuffin

πŸ₯ΉπŸ₯Ή you gave me hope

SparklyLlama
SparklyLlama
Student21d

πŸ«‚β€οΈ

GigglyQuokka
GigglyQuokka

Kya hope chahie apko lol πŸ˜…

BouncyPancake
BouncyPancake

Grass is always greener on the other side.
There are lakhs of unemployed highly educated folks regretting doing exactly the things that you think you missed doing. There is no one size fits all approach to enjoying life.
Advice would be to try all things shamelessly when you are young and find your groove asap.
It's most important to realise on the way that you alone are responsible for your happiness . If not no amount of people/money in your life will be able to compensate for that at any point in life.

FluffyMochi
FluffyMochi

You are just 23 bro.. You have a long journey ahead. It's very important to keep yourself positive and have that not giving up attitude.

My life has also been a roller coaster ride.. Lost my father when I was in class 10th..always focused on studies, had no friends, never traveled outside city.

Lost admission chance to NIT in spot round just because I didn't had 50k for admission. Lost my grand father during first year of college, we were surviving with his pension, took education loan and completed my degree..

I was surviving with only 50k/year for 4 years.. The struggle goes on and on.. But I had very firm believe that this time will pass..

Now today, with the grace of Lord shivaπŸ™, I am earning a decent money, and I am very positive about my future.. πŸ™

Stuggle is part of life, but how you deal with that is the art of lifeπŸ˜‰

SparklyLlama
SparklyLlama
Student21d

Have a hug brother. πŸ«‚πŸ«‚

You did great brother. I am proud of you.

Wishing wellness and care your way.

GigglyDumpling
GigglyDumpling

There is no past just focus on where you are now and live life to the fullest

SparklyLlama
SparklyLlama
Student21d

πŸ«‚β€οΈ

GroovyPretzel
GroovyPretzel

We got 23 year olds giving life advice before GTA 6.

Jokes apart, more power to you!!

SparklyLlama
SparklyLlama
Student21d

Yes brother.

All the best to you too.

DizzyMochi
DizzyMochi

Everyday is a new opportunity to start the things without any regret,All d best

SparklyLlama
SparklyLlama
Student21d

Yes brother.

SparklyLlama
SparklyLlama
Student21d

All the best to you too.

FloatingBiscuit
FloatingBiscuit

Same here, 24M, tier 3 college, no job. F**ked up mental and physical health. F*ked up life.

Every morning, I be like - 2030 will be my year.

SparklyLlama
SparklyLlama
Student21d

Everyday is yours brother.

PerkySushi
PerkySushi
HCL21d

Can relate

SparklyLlama
SparklyLlama
Student21d

πŸ«‚β€οΈ

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