Feelling like a psycho

Hey everyone, I’m going through something personal and would really appreciate some honest thoughts.

Lately, whenever I talk to my mom, I end up getting very angry and reacting badly — even though I know that’s not how I want to be. I genuinely want her to become her best version, and I try to point out things that I feel she’s doing wrong. But instead of understanding me, she often brings up unrelated situations or defends herself in a way that makes me feel completely unheard.

I know my intention comes from care, not disrespect. But each time this happens, I lose control and raise my voice. Now she’s started to fear speaking with me when certain topics come up, and that breaks my heart.

I feel mentally exhausted and sometimes even wonder if something’s wrong with me. I’m considering visiting a psychiatrist, just to understand why I’m reacting this way and how to manage my emotions better.

Has anyone else gone through something similar with their parents? How did you handle those conversations without losing your calm — especially when you feel you’re right but the other person won’t see it?

Any advice, experience, or even reassurance would mean a lot right now. 🙏