Feeling worthless in Life
Time and time I feel worthless in my life. All my life I was very nerdy guy. I thought relationships and having a life partner will distract me from my path. So I have worked and studied really hard without paying any attention on my social skills. Those hard work got me sone success like getting into IITs etc. But now I feel really worthless because I am 25 year old loner who has nobody to talk to other than his mother. I get so shy around girls and I feel they also detect my lack of personality.
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Only practice makes perfect. Social skills are skills like any other, and can be learned, and improved with practice & repetition.
Now treat this as IIT-JEE v2.0 of your life, and you have to put in same level of effort to improve your social skills.
Use every opportunity to interact with women, over and over again, in all sorts of social situations, as much as you can, until you get better at it. That’s the only way to improve at this.
All the best! 👍
Good point
Great way to think about brother
Irrespective of what others who don't have any idea how it feels speak.. I can tell u that it's not that easy. And it's possible u won't even be able to accomplish it. Ppl don't understand it cause they are already good at it since it's since childhood they've been subconsciously practicing it. It doesn't have a roadmap, you have to collect 1000s of experiences in this random open world... Basically u can relate of it as discovering something out of thin air. But one thing is true as well, a level of human is same in all the fields even if he hasn't entered it. You would still be an IIT lvl guy in socialising if you had spent your time there. Never feel worthless.. you just chose to spend your time for work and stability. But otherwise.. had u entered the field of socialising, you would've been an IIT grade socialiser. 🥴
You’re absolutely right, it is very difficult to do in real life. That’s why I am struggling. Everyday I think I will approach that girl and talk freely with her but when I do I mess up big time. After a certain point she doesn’t engage with me anymore
Similar path as you. What helps is typically
- Hit the gym regularly. Does wonders for your confidence
- Go on treks/group trips
- Stay in hostels
- Use dating apps to meet new folks
- Say yes to every plan for the next 3 years
Is dating apps for real? Do you guys get any match?
Seriously I have been using bumble for the last 3 months I didn’t even got 1 fking match. If so you suggest some trick