Feeling low while leaving my firm because of how my colleagues behaved — has anyone else felt this way?
I’m leaving my firm soon and lately I’ve been feeling a bit low because of how some people at work have behaved.
I did inform the friends who were genuinely close to me in the beginning, but I told the others a bit late that I’m leaving mainly because I always felt they never really considered me a friend. They treated me more like a colleague. For example, they’d go for lunch without even asking if I wanted to join, and when I didn’t, they never bothered to ask why.
One of them even had feelings for me, but honestly, I always felt uncomfortable being around him not because of his looks or anything, but because my body just didn’t feel at ease. Another one used to joke around in ways that made me feel small, and overall, this group often made fun of me in the name of “just joking.”
Even though I know it’s not in my control how people treat me, it still hurts. I recently messaged in our group asking if they’re coming to office tomorrow, and the reply I got was very cold — like I was the one who did something wrong by informing them late or keeping my distance.
Has anyone else gone through something similar while leaving their company? How did you deal with those mixed feelings of disappointment and sadness when people you thought were your friends turned out not to care as much?
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Pls remember that in your life keep a tight hold on only two things and your life will be sorted. These two things are money and your family. Only these two entities will rescue you and no one else when you will face the music of life.
Stop giving so much importance to others. I am sorry but you sound like you don't value yourself and people don't value those who don't value themselves. They can sense it in your behaviour. They understand that you will always be available no matter how they treat you. Let go of people. Please .
I think it has been like this and lately I have been giving priority to myself. So I like this girl in my office. I feel like I gave too much attention. Although we are good friends, I feel that I make her feel a bit awkward. Not sure but I sense it. I am good at technical aspects so they reach me for help. I think about this all the time...
People who make fun of you and make you feel low are not really people who you want to hang out with. You have something that they could not have.
This is how it works!! They are just realising that you are moving ahead while they can’t so it’s normal respect their behaviour and move on. Even during my LWD I was treated by only one person because rest of them never expected me to rise so early 🙂
This is like a freaking deja vu. There was a girl in my team, we joined at the same time. She use to complain (don't read this in a negative connotation) exactly like you. Down to the last detail. I was basically the guy you mentioned you didn't feel comfortable around. Only in my case she reciprocated my feelings. I quickly realized she had very low self esteem and even lower confidence. For 3 months I jacked up her confidence levels and made her feel like queen of the world and it worked. She started dressing nicely, got her hair colored basically the "glow up" we read about. Once she started being noticed and became popular in our circles, she gave me a nice klpd.
Anyway I know this not a solution to your problem and honestly I don't have one as well but I thought to vent out as I haven't confided this with anyone. The anonymity helped.
A colleague threw a fit when I told her I had joined x company, 2 weeks after joining. She said she expected me to inform her when I went for the interview...that she would've then 'guided' me. Forget about being happy, when we met next she asked me all the details of interview and a veiled barb filled comment about salary. Disgusting scum of this earth.
Only thing I'll tell OP is good that you saw this. Drop them like hot potatoes. Move onto better stuff.
I personally only informed my teammate. For other colleagues I informed them on the last day lol, they were shocked, but understood the decision. You seem to have toxic colleagues, why do you care about what they think?
I understood one thing in life enjoy your own company and be happy even I faced the same they exclude me understand that you need to work for money that's the important goal if you feel bad go get a pet cat or a dog they are geniune have rabbit birds and dog which are all waiting for me to come back and spending time feels like playing with friends when we were kids , i feel like a school kid again running towards Home ready to spend time with them, humans are fake but not animals so be happy with them
Lunch-table gangs and tea-time groups are colleagues. But that one rare bond goes beyond office small talk it becomes a lifetime friendship. Don’t worry, you will find your friend in the next office. Just keep being yourself and keep the conversations real.
You should be glad it happened, now you know who you should stay in touch w , also keep your personal life away from work sure you should get along w your colleagues but not dependent on them and sometimes you just get shitty people to work w . i was laid off from my first gig , worked there for 3 years and only got 2 calls that too not from my immediate team 🤣 . Shit happens best of luck for your next job 🫡
Areeee devi kya hua appko, be strong and learn to ignore. Do your job get salary and enjoy . Dil Nhi lagane ka