Feeling Low and tired of life
22(M) 1:45 am, not able to fall asleep, stuck in overthinking.
One of my relatives son is getting engaged this month, and my family is also looking for a girl for me, he has a good house, car, and no debt. He can afford staying home if something happens.
About me, living in a small house(1BHK) government aawas. Education loan(5 Lakh) repayment will start this October. I need a good 2bhk(40 Lakh) house if I am getting married. Marriage and engagement total will be around (10 Lakh). My father earns 14k per month and I am earning 60k per month and I'm working remotely. But currently in IT the market is very bad so anything can happen anytime. The whole responsibility is on me.
Also there was a girl I've been with in the past 2-3 months, and I got attached to her a lot. We used to talk for hours at night and all day on chats. We used to makeout. But suddenly from the past 1 month she started behaving really cold. Call duration went into 2-3 minutes only. I used to put a lot of effort on her, she used to tell me I'm craving the attention you are giving me, but I cannot give it back to you. Now she talks really rudely with me, one day on her birthday i was crying a lot in front of her, and telling her to not leave me. She was the first girl I have been with. I had my first hug, first kiss with her. I miss her a lot.
I don't know what to do, I can't share this with anyone and also I don't have anyone to share it with. I'm tired of everything.
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Take a 10-min AI interview to qualify for numerous real jobs auto-matched to your profile 🔑Now you will feel terrible, you will laugh at it after 3 to 5 years. Don't beg people to love you. It has to happen Automatically. Do not call or initiate contact with her. Try to learn something new everyday. Focus on career and family. Rest follows. All the best
First of all, it should not reach a level where you have to beg somebody to love you back, if you still feel that the relationship can be saved, then that is a part in you which is afraid of letting go of that connection and being alone. So the first step should be clearing your mind and go to that girl, have a conversation as to what does she want and what are your needs? You should not let go of self-respect and understand that even if she agrees to be with you and be nice to you, would you be okay being in this state for the next 20 to 30 years?
About you feeling that you’re not doing enough, I can understand, but there are still a lot of skills that you can add onto and gradually taking one step at a time so that you can skill up yourself to get better jobs if you want to grow financially
Not sure I agree with other advises here. But most likely things will never get better, but you will get used to it. Your expectations will come down eventually.
You should feel grateful it was a short relationship, would have hurt a lot more if it went on longer.
Just give yourself a few months, you will get over it.
As for marriage, don't think about it right now because buying a house will be a huge burden early on for you. Focus on improving your skills and income first. Aim for marriage in a few years once you have savings.
Seriously marriage proposals at the age of 22?
Btw one side efforts can never build a strong bond. Leave her and try to focus more on yourself.