Feel like giving up everyday
I’m a 29yr old, female. Not able to focus on work, health and relationships. I want to get married but also not. Too confused to take life decisions. Feel like I’m running behind. My ex recently got married and that has made me feel all the more loner and failure. How can I bring my life back on track ?
Hi friend, been in the same shoes as you, the only way to Target this kind of wormhole is starting to sort these things one by one. Of the three you mentioned, prioritise which is the most important to you right now or which is the easiest to fix. I think health/work are always important and you can maybe start there. Start devoting your energy, positive thoughts and hard work all in that one chosen direction. When you start seeing results in one, it is then how you start thinking of coupling the others there. Like habits formed during maintained consistency in workouts and eating clean can help you at work. And if work gets finished on time, you can take out some time for yourself to workout. Like that. Give yourself time to bring one on track, let's say 3-4 months and then start mixing the other with already acquired habits. When two start running together like clockwork, 66% of your issues will be resolved and you will anyway be in a happier space to focus on the third. This is usually the way to break from toxic patterns. Hold yourself accountable by journaling or maybe sharing updates with a friend. Hope I was able to help in some way :)
I’d suggest you pick one major theme (personal suggestion - health and fitness) put everything else in life on maintenance mode. Give yourself 10 weeks. Show up consistently for your workouts/ dance/ sports sessions. Focus on your diet and try to make it 80% whole foods and 20 % taste/ indulgence based stuff. Also call your mom atleast twice a week, have a long convo 10min+ atleast.
10 weeks later you’ll be in a better frame of mind and shape. You’ll have won in one aspect of your life. You could evaluate if and which other aspect is worth investing in and then you could then pick up another major theme.
Underrated advice.
29M, in a similar boat. Been in matrimonial websites for a year. Met a couple of girls, most of them were arrogant or incompatible in some way or other.
I’m basically paying the price for being short. 🤷
To fix my troubles, I swim, I smash & gym & run. Someday, some intelligent girl will fall for me 🥰.
price for being short?? Didn't get u
Go on a solo trip with a group of travellers , you will incarnate.
My office crush who left to another company , is also exactly in the same situation.Same age.Are you her by any chance 😇?
Btw I was in the same situation when I was 24 -25 glad it happened early and I fucked up early . After the breakup,I was figuring out what went wrong. How can It go wrong, questioning, blaming myself,trying to patchup. I quit my job and was depressed. Health finances everything is adding to the depression. Now I'm super happy being alone for two years now. Don't do anything stupid like me. Give some time to yourself like others are suggesting. After a year, you'll laugh it off thinking, why did I care so much.
I can actually understand your situation. Im almost in the same place rn. Peer pressure sucks man. Tbh i don’t have any solution for this. But just letting you are not alone
Start morning runs. This will not make you a successful person but will make you strong enough to endure failure.
Moreover, age doesn’t matter. You can feel the same - at 40, Married with kids.
