FED UP!!!!!!!!!
I recently got promoted—a moment I was genuinely proud of. My friends celebrated with me, my colleagues congratulated me warmly, even my mom and sister shared a few kind words. But my father’s reaction felt... blunt. He just said, “Okay,” and immediately shifted the conversation to how much I spend, followed by, “Work more, we’ll see.” Since I was a child, I’ve felt like no matter what I do, it’s never enough. There’s always a higher bar, always another goal I should’ve hit. I think I’ve internalized that mindset so deeply that now, even when something good happens—like getting promoted or earning well—I struggle to feel joy or satisfaction. I move on too quickly, chasing the next milestone.
I’m 23. I have a year of work experience, and my current CTC is around 35 LPA: 28 lakh base, 3 lakh bonus, and 5 lakh in stocks. Logically, I know I’ve done well. But emotionally, I still ask myself: What more can I do?
Maybe it’s in my genes, maybe it’s how I was raised—but I wish I could hear just once from my family, especially my father, “You’ve done your best. You’ve made us proud.” I think that’s all I’ve ever wanted.
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You can always try to be a better father. That should be your goal!
Since you can't get a good father now.
I am a girl lol
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Some parents do this to not let you be too happy and then think you have achieved a lot. I did think you would be a daughter before reading the comments.
It might be how your father was raised as a child and he think this reverse psychology males you push harder and get the results you are capable of.
If your parents dont ask bother you about your finances and you dont get bothered with parents finances, thats a blessing. They are definitely happy for you, even though he choses not to express it.
Dont rely on this for your mental peace. Celebrate your success with yourself. At 28 age I have figured that out. The only one person you need to please and care about in every situation is You.
All the best ahead 😇
thanksss this helps
I'm 32 and I still haven't heard it yet from my father.
Like someone else said, it's common for sons to face this, not so much for daughters.
There could be a couple of reasons - it's often difficult for men to be emotionally expressive, especially when they have gone through a lot and are now hardened.
From the inside, your father might actually be very proud.
Second reason could be tough love. He might be thinking that you may become too soft or comfortable if you feel content with what you have achieved today.
I think I faced option 2 in my early days. Now it's option 1.
35 LPA is less bro! You should be earning more at your current age! That’s why he’s pissed.
Are you serious? 35 LPA at 23 is a dream for many people. She's living the dream, but I can understand the peer pressure she can be in, since I was also raised in the same fashion.
I mean every Indian person's parents care about that one mark which is lost instead of the 99 marks that their child scored.
That's Indian mentality!
You forgot to add /s 😂
I should rather uninstall grapevine now fedofff from people posting fake post
well then you should may be rather than commenting on people’s “fake” post
and by the way no one has time to fake post under an anonymous name
no one wants to become an influencer
if i wanted to do that, i would have gone to twitter or instagram
What's fake is your thought bro. Go fix that. Why. Would anyone fake in anonymity and this is every household problem with fathers, not a brag post or unrealistic expectation.
Uh @DecentEvil17 any info on how bagged that CTC. Or may i dm u?
I am a software developer at salesforce I got on campus job my first year ctc was around 21 lakhs then I got promoted just few days back
Promotion in a year? Is that common in Salesforce? How the hierarchy works in Salesforce? Can you share some information on that?
Well, dad's never say that you did great. If they did, you will reach an endpoint thinking that you have achieved maximum. If he did not tell you, then it drives you more to do hardwork and earn more 😃
You go girl! You are really doing great.. believe it yourself.. I know it's easier said than done..but.. DONT LOOK FOR EXTERNAL VALIDITION.. even from your parents.. now it's time to enjoy your hardwork.. enjoy your work.. keep upskilling .. .. keep growing.. not just financially but as a human too..
@DecentEvil17
My father is exactly same How much ever I do, he still keeps on brings other cousins comparisons ,even though i earn more than them, recently I got promoted and got good hike,I didn't tell him, just told my mom🫠
Believe me, a lot of Indian fathers are like that. I think it comes from their background. They have really struggled a lot, seen really bad days and somehow raised us to becomes fully independent human beings. I feel.many parents don't realise the gravity of that achievement itself and are always in competition with someone else or their kids.
It's sad because they could be enjoying this moment but most of the time they are happy. They won't show it to you but will brag about it among their peers. Somehow showing emotions hasn't been a strong suit of parents generation.
You have done well. Be happy in that and know that they might be happy, just not showing it. My father still talks about me going for govt job everytime there is news about layoffs. They worry about us all the time. Enjoy it while it lasts.
I can use some telugu cuss words here but that dilutes what I want to say. But at some point you have to lstart living your life. I'm assuming your father like most father's did well for his family at best and we are surrounded by mediocrity and that includes ourselves, so do not expect much appreciation from mediocrity.
No Kid owns their life to their parents and should not live to make them happy. I'm not asking you to be dicks to parents either, maintain courtesy and stand your ground.