Don’t share CTC/payslip
Dear men,
Don’t share your exact CTC/payslip in arranged marriage if you are earning more than 25 lakhs.
In today’s world, both men and women are equal. I can understand that women have to bear child but it’s a decision that should be taken with consent.
Washing dishes, taking care of both side parents, changing diapers, should be a shared responsibility.
If you are earning 25 lakhs and above and even though the girl is earning more-
- She should understand your job in IT and how much you can/will earn
- Disclosing high CTC/payslip is an invitation to alimony and future headache.
If the girls also work in IT, and she isn’t able to make out how much you earn, better stay away from the dumbass girls.
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- She is uprooting her life and shifting with the man. Knowing a picture of how finances would be is important
- CTC may also include esops which do not translate to inhand money. Salary slips give a better perspective
Calling them dumbass because she is taking a stand for herself speaks volume of your upbringing. Those girls are better off than marrying your kind
If she is uprooting her life, she should do it on her own. No man is expecting his partner to earn more, so that he can settle in his life.
Are you married? If yes, did you ask for STD test, virginity test etc. from your partner to maintain full transparency?
You are such a kid, baby. Why it is the responsibility of a male to earn more than female? Are female prized posession?
Hard to get married if you don't disclose your rough numbers atleast in arrange marriages. Get some experience and then come back.
If you're man enough, you would not lie about your monthly in hand. If she is decent enough, she'll never ask for your payslip and trust your words.
But mutual respect and empathy or integrity seems dead seeing such posts.
Can understand your feelings, but sharing salary slip is needed, have seen worst things by boys side w.r.t. workplace and salary
Men should also seek proof from girls
- Many times these questions are raised by girl’s family and not the girl herself.
- The payslip is to also verify whether you are working in that company, at the designation you are claiming- to verify your honesty more than the exact pay- the scams that happen in arranged settings.
- And do let me know when you stand up for this equality to your parents- Ask your parents also to not ask how much girl’s family is okay to spend on wedding, you both move to separate home and not stay and expect her to care for your parents, and let her do whatever she wants to do with her salary to help her parents and family with you and your family having no part in it.
Agree but lets put it in better way:
You can disclose the amount which is necessary for survival then full CTC choose the girl who still choose you as a person and marry her.
If you’re flexing you CTC then your already inviting gold-diggers so expect some adverse things.
Completely disagreed on not disclosing ctc part. An unmarried male here btw. And you seem to have no clue of arranged marriage scenario, that’s why you are talking all this. Keep following your own suggestion and soon reality will bring you to ground.
In my opinion, both girl and boy should ask each other for compensation detail, and should also ask for ways to verify it. (Though I am against sharing of any office docs)
Damn Wow, This is so enlightening. Great to see someone with a perspective towards life like this. This is how it should be.
Bhai if the girl is good looking im more than happy to become a dog for her 😂😅