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Do you have a different work and home persona?

I have met some people across my career who have work and home personas which are yin and yang. They are narcissists at work while completely pleasant and respectful outside work. Eg. had a sales head in the past who was an aggressive asshole to work with/for. Met him after a couple of years at an event and he was charming and friendly. Completely opposite to the image he had built for himself at work.

While I have a serious problem of being as good natured at work as with my loved ones. This has led to trusting people more than they deserved, back stabbing, getting rolled up in politics, etc. have tried changing my approach at work but the good natured ness creeps in eventually.

Any of you who have successfully cultivated a work persona that is completely opposite? Would love to hear any advice.

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JumpyBiscuit
JumpyBiscuit
Stealth13mo

Extremely professional at work. Like an absolute professional.

Outside work - MC/BC/TMKB/Full on bakchodi

WigglyBanana
WigglyBanana
Stealth13mo

+1 😂😂

DancingTaco
DancingTaco
Flipkart13mo

Mazak mein gaali dena aur actual mein politics karna are two different things

ZestyQuokka
ZestyQuokka
Hinge13mo

I am. And I have very different personalities at work and home. At work, I'm no nonsense, very structured, more work less fun person. At home, I'm lazy messy foodie, yolo kinda personality 😅

My professional and home voices are distinctive too 🤭

GoofyJellybean
GoofyJellybean
PhonePe13mo

I can feel you bro 🤣🤣

FluffyWaffle
FluffyWaffle
Swiggy12mo

You also have a GV persona @BiryaniEnthu

DancingTaco
DancingTaco
Flipkart13mo

I feel ppl’s basic nature is same at home and work or anywhere.

DizzyNugget
DizzyNugget
Stealth13mo

I agree what changes for me is how much I trust other people at work.

I trust people less at work because more is at stake In a party, I can chill out because there is nothing going wrong with trusting anyone.

Perhaps that changes my own persona unintentionally.

DancingTaco
DancingTaco
Flipkart13mo

It’s ok to not trust ppl and to safeguard yourself. I also don’t trust ppl at work. As time passes, we observe who is well-wisher and who is not. But at starting, it is better to not trust anyone.

SillyJellybean
SillyJellybean
Stealth13mo

Read 48 laws of power

CosmicRaccoon
CosmicRaccoon
Amazon13mo

Book name it is ?

SillyJellybean
SillyJellybean
Stealth13mo

Yes

DancingMuffin
DancingMuffin
Stealth13mo

I can't separate personalities, goes against my "always be genuine" policy.

SquishyPancake
SquishyPancake
Stealth13mo

Over the years I guess my work and home persona have emulsified into one big confused homework persona. Tough for everyone else to relate, easy for me as I don't have to switch all the time.

JazzyBoba
JazzyBoba
Santander13mo

Nope I'm the same at work and at home. I backstab, create unnecessarily politics, annoy people etc

FloatingPretzel
FloatingPretzel
Stealth13mo

Having 3k+ comics and story books collection

WobblyPancake
WobblyPancake
TCS13mo

Kudos....WOW

ZestyBurrito
ZestyBurrito
Affirm Data12mo

Yes, people at work don't give a damn about you. That doesn't mean everyone outside work will think only good for you. Tbh, list of your wellwishers will have extremely few names, so identify them and be truthful to them.

GigglyBoba
GigglyBoba
Stealth12mo

Earlier when I started my career I could never understand why people are not so friendly as I had less friends since childhood it took me some bad events in career to understand that ...post that I decided that I will make my office persona very pleasing but at the same time be able to understand all political dynamics ...now my office persona is too pleasing and a easy to work with...say more yes than no's ....in my personal life I am a very hot headed person who can not tolerate much and have no friends almost

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