Do people distance themselves when you are Midrange?
From my personal experience, I’ve noticed a strange pattern in how people behave based on where you are in life.
Around 7–8 years ago, my family and I were going through a really low phase. During that time, almost no relatives or friends came forward to help us. We were ignored, sometimes even treated awkwardly—like when we sat in their car or tried to be part of family gatherings. We weren’t really included anywhere.
Things started changing when I graduated and got my first job in 2017 (₹24k/month). It wasn’t huge, but for us, it was a big deal—especially since it was in Bangalore. Suddenly, the same relatives started showing some care and including us more.
Over the years, I switched jobs, grew in my career, got married to my girlfriend, and things were going well. My wife and I both progressed professionally, salaries increased, we started traveling internationally—life felt stable and positive.
Then about 3 years ago, we bought a house in Bangalore. Many relatives discouraged us at the time (“why so early?” etc.). But we managed to clear the home loan in about 3 years. Once that news spread in the family, I noticed something odd again.
Slowly, people started pulling away. Fewer calls, less involvement—almost like the earlier phase repeating itself, but for a different reason.
It feels like when you’re struggling, people ignore you. When you’re doing okay, they accept you. But when you start doing too well, some people can’t digest it and distance themselves.
Has anyone else experienced something like this?
First two phases - yes. When some is in oow phase of life, the one who are doing well try to avoid.
The last phase - that's ones own doing. When doing well, the people ding well, don't mingle with the lesser mortals. They usually become the ones that they complained about when they were lesser mortals.
