Did I dodge a bullet or a high cruise ballistic missile? 😅

So I spoke to a girl through an arranged marriage setup… and honestly, I am still processing what just happened.

Felt less like a conversation and more like a terms and conditions document

Here is how it went:

1. I told her I live in Bangalore. She immediately asked if I own a house. I said I am planning to buy one. She cannot live in one which is rented. Next question: Will it be in your name or your mother or sister’s name? I was like… are we planning marriage or already preparing for court case? 😅

2. Then she said if she does not like the house or locality, we will have to shift. So basically, house = returnable item 🚚

3. She clearly said she needs a maid because she cannot do any household work due to office. Fair, but the way it was said… felt like I am hiring staff from day one

4. No kids for 5 years because she wants to travel the world 🌍 Again fair, but it sounded like a fixed rule, not a discussion.

5. She also mentioned she gets short tempered due to work and might shout at me and family. Our job is to stay calm and not react 🙂 So I will basically sign up as full-time peace manager.

6. And if someday she does not feel like working, she will quit… and I should be ready to handle everything financially.

At this point I was just sitting there thinking…Is this a marriage conversation or a high pressure contract negotiation?

She was just 26, but the whole conversation felt like she is already planning a luxury life after marriage, with everything sorted for her from day one. Honestly, it felt a bit like a scam more than a partnership.

And it makes me wonder… finding a genuine person these days feels really hard. Someone who just wants to build life together, not walk into something fully set.

Right now I am genuinely thinking… how do people even find a real, balanced relationship in today’s time? 🤷‍♂️