Dear brothers, How do you manage maintaining a balance between Wife and Mother?

While mom is sweet and sees you as hero, goes overboard and becomes flag bearer of patriarchy. Whereas wife is modern, educated, true feminist but hyper sensitive and intolerant. These two keep on fighting and it’s becoming super difficult to maintain a balance. Everyday feels like walking on the knife and dealing with their daily drama. How do you guys handle it? Please pour in your thoughts, tips and tricks..